OP
You are nowhere ready to talk to your son and apologize
"I do need to apologise to my son because I can see how he may have thought he wasn't being treated fairly"
He "may have thought he wasnt treated fairly"? He thinks for sure he was not treated fairly, that "may" invalidates his feelings and you are still in deep denial
Do NOT apologize at all. It will make it much worse
Having a doctorate doesn't mean you are financially savvy.
I donr have one, does it mean I dont know how to manage my money?
Your daughters's view on your dil - wow, what can I say. Toxic, poisonous and very unhealthy on your daughter's mind.
You are your daughter are clearly enmeshed and happy to be so.
"My dh and dd have been very concerned about the house and the will but that's because they didn't want my son to allow someone to come in and take what's for him and his children."
Is there is more to the story? How do you think your son is being taken advantage of?
You need therapy. I would leave son and dil's family alone.
Kate Garroway-Care at home costs
Is it me or am I getting mixed messages
Does anybody work out with kettlebells ?