Friendship,advice and support if estrangement has affected your life.

Taking a break from this thread for a short while, won't be reading any more post, but I'll be back. Take care all and stay cool

Did you mean to post on one of the heatwave threads?

I hope everyone survived the heat ok, it reached nearly 40 degrees here - much too hot and airless for us.?

Breathing problems make everything a nuisance.?

Spent the day, flat out, gasping through it, and then had to be careful as a large heath fire broke out near us, and they weren't sure what way the smoke would drift.

Sat in the garden yesterday evening, seeing if I could drag in some air, but it didn't help much.

Thankfully, it's much more "normal temperature" today. It's going to be 28/29 degrees here, but after the last few days, it feels fresh and nice.?

Keep well. ?

Oh, my “bad” ?
I thought this thread was about estrangement and family issues

Our basement living room certainly came into its own last night hugs and I was tempted to sleep down there, but prefer my own bed, even when it's hot.

Had some rain about midnight, for about two minutes and that was that.

Thanks for letting us know you're taking a break Yogin so we know why we wont be seeing you for a while.

It's lovely here this morning, warm and sunny with a very pleasant breeze. Hope it's more tolerable where you all are.

I’ll get my coat shall I?

It is Maw but we chat about other things as well, as our lives thankfully are more than our estrangements. We had a life before we were estranged and do whatever it takes to ensure that we have one afterwards.

Threads that simply go round and round in circles, where the only thing talked about is estrangement can be rather depressing.

Advice is given for any issue anyone maybe dealing with, including what to do with our gardens during a heat wave.

I was thinking about you and your DH yesterday with the heat due to breathing difficulties DiamonLily. That must have been difficult and unpleasant. I hope you're both OK and will be able to enjoy some cooler temperatures today .

Apologies if I intruded on a private friendship group - genuine mistake

Maw it’s not a private friendship group as I am sure you know. Anyone going through estrangement is welcomed, that’s what this thread is all about, it here to offer support and friendship to people going through the pain of it.

Now now Maw you're just being naughty aren't you .

You know this isn't a private friendship group, and no amount of suggesting that this is, and is only for EP's and that anyone who isn't an EP isn't welcome here, isn't going to detract from what this thread is for.

The title is self explanatory and clearly all inclusive.

Maw as your username name more the merrier on here. Smiles is right if we only talked about estrangement that would dominate our lives. While it is a part of our lives unfortunately. We are more than that. If you have read any of the posts we talk about anything and everything. I know I ramble on about my exercise class,craft group , cooking , gardening etc. Because they are all part of my life.

Look forward to reading more from you. ?

Yes the thread does go off piste sometimes. Lol. But, maybe that's a good thing. It proves that life goes on and that it is possible to live a good life after estrangement.

We should not let our past define us, nor should we let the awful things that can happen in life defeat us, we have to pick ourselves up and start again.

Just like our poor gardens, we can bloom again. ?

And we love your ramblings Whiff.

Just like our poor gardens, we can bloom again love that DSL and FWIW I think you're a blooming wonderful bunch of ladies.

MawtheMerrier

Apologies if I intruded on a private friendship group - genuine mistake

^ this

that's exactly how it feels to me, maw. i've written on this thread on the topic of estrangement, but been either ignored or accused of offending someone for saying something that seems (to me) less offensive than the things being said to me.

my thought is that they'd do well to rename the thread, so that people wanting guidance, understanding, support, or perhaps "just" validation over their estrangement can look elsewhere and not disturb this group of people who seem determined to ignore every bit of advice on the gransnet estrangement forum.

Yoginimeisje

I put my very large parasol up just to protect my plants & did the same with my garden chairs the shadow protecting. Gave my plants a really good watering last night and my lawn, so far so good. Sat and watched the storm before going to bed, what a relief!

As I've already said; had my patio doors wide open and curtains closed, but have now learnt that the doors and windows should be closed in the heat of the day

Yoginimeisje

I remember in very hot summers (dare I mention the summer of '76 which is beginning to sound like the title of a song!) when we couldn't water our lawns, they all dried up to a brown crisp but grew back green and lush when the rains came.

There must be an analogy there somewhere, if only I could think of it
?

The name of this thread was changed in January riete from 'Support for all those living with estrangement' to the one we have now.

I'm afraid you're wasting your time if you think that constant references to this thread being for a select few, who aren't interested in what anyone else has to say etc etc, is going to have any effect.

You see, this thread has been running with various title changes for 10 years. It began on the AIBU forum and unfortunately there used to be some disruption, so GNHQ moved it to the Relationships forum before eventually giving estrangement, a forum of it's own.

We've weathered many storms over the years but carry on regardless.

If you don't like this particular thread, there are plenty of others on this forum. You could resurrect an old one or start one yourself. It's easy to do.

A new one was started yesterday which has some interesting and informative discussion, I've posted there myself.

Starting to cool down here now, which is so nice. No rain yet which would be nicer still.

Our house buyer didn't come. Cancelled at last minute as he has covid - which he found out a few days ago just before he booked it with us. He's been to view twice and changed the time on both those occasions too, albeit by hours rather than days. Sigh. Still at least the place is lovely and tidy.

Oh what a pain hugs still it's always good to look on the bright side isn't it. The house is lovely and tidy and you have a buyer .

riete

MawtheMerrier

Apologies if I intruded on a private friendship group - genuine mistake

^ this

that's exactly how it feels to me, maw. i've written on this thread on the topic of estrangement, but been either ignored or accused of offending someone for saying something that seems (to me) less offensive than the things being said to me.

my thought is that they'd do well to rename the thread, so that people wanting guidance, understanding, support, or perhaps "just" validation over their estrangement can look elsewhere and not disturb this group of people who seem determined to ignore every bit of advice on the gransnet estrangement forum.

Hi reite

I am sorry if you feel you aren't being heard. I haven't replied to you directly because I felt most of your posts seem to have directed to either Whiff or Mia and I didn't feel I had anything to contribute or add. But I did read your posts and I did digest them.

Of course you are welcome here, everyone is, it's a public forum, open to all. I have only been posting here fir a few months but I can tell you that I have been made very welcome here and I have received friendship, support and encouragement.

This thread was a beacon for me at a time when I was struggling with the threat of permanent estrangement (thankfully averted and I credit the thread with helping me avert estrangement because of the help, support and advice I received).

I wasn't aware of the name changes over the years but don't see it as an issue. The current name would seem to embrace the ethos of the thread.......it is open to all, estranged, estranger, those like me who feared estrangement and thise who have been estranged but are now reconciled. It may not be the snappiest and most succinct of titles but that is because it is trying to demonstrate that this thread is for all comers.

We all have our stories and we can all benefit from learning from the stories of others. That's what this thread does, it shares stories and experiences.

I too have looked and posted on the new thread which is designated for the Estranger. It is interesting and just like this thread it shares stories and helps us to learn more about estrangement. Both threads are valuable.

Oh DSL don't you like the new title? . That's the problem when you're trying to ensure that everyone can see, and TBF I think most people do see, that this thread isn't just for EP's/EGP's.

Not easy to come up with a snappy and succinct title.

Even when a thread is designated for a particular group, others join in too which is what happens on an open forum and rightly so.

Lol......I think it's a good title. As the saying goes.....it does what it says on the tin. ??.

Yes it does DSL.

hi derbyshire lass,
thank you for your welcome, and i’m so pleased you’ve found friendship, support, advice, and encouragement on this site. i hope you continue to do so.

riete

hi derbyshire lass,
thank you for your welcome, and i’m so pleased you’ve found friendship, support, advice, and encouragement on this site. i hope you continue to do so.

My pleasure.

Thanks. I feel I have made some good friends on here. And I know I can come on here for advice or even if I'm just having a bad day and need cheering up.