It's taken me over a week to pluck up courage to write this. I'm so stressed about this. I'll try to be as brief so I don't drag it out.
I have 2 dds. I'll call them D1 (age 44 tomorrow) and D2 (age 41). D2 lives with boyfriend of many years about an hours drive away, both with good jobs and quite settled and no children. However, D1 is so different. She has had many jobs and places to live. Went back to live with her dad in the town where she was born and where I live also many times but their relationship was very stormy. Their dad suffered with cancer and for quite a few years the sisters never spoke to each other up to the point they both blocked her on their phones. Late last year their dad went into hospital and the cat he cared for (who belonged originally to D1) had to be put in a cattery and she kicked off big time. Told him she didn't want anything from his will and sent all her many texts to him and her sister via me. I did not want to be piggy in the middle and told her so.
Their dad died in December who was my ex. DD1 said last year she had ADHD. She went to friends on Christmas Day and came to us on New Years Day and stayed the night. No problems and talked, watched tv. All seemed well.
A couple of weeks ago we went to our solicitor to make our wills and needed DD1 full address so later that day tried to ring her but she didn't reply. Sent her a text to ask and since then have had nothing but a torrent of awful messages.
Didn't think we believed her about the ADHD and was going to get as many medical reports as she could and go to Switzerland to Dignitas. She thinks no treatment will do any good after the miserable life she has had. I have tried to talk to her but whatever I say brings forth more horrible texts. Now she is bringing up stuff from her childhood but there was never any evidence there was a problem them. She mentions stuff I can't remember happening and has told me she'll never bother me again. I've done nothing wrong but now her dad has gone she seems to be taking it all out on me. I feel so hurt by all this and powerless to do anything.
I've told her she needs a proper assessment to determine if she has it but she is adamant she has and determined to go to Switzerland. I've read about this place and it's horrendous.
I would like to know what your thoughts are. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment.
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