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Strength after narcissistic abuse

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VioletSky Sat 10-Feb-24 17:46:07

donnashinwellness.com/post-traumatic-growth-after-narcissistic-abuse/#:~:text=The%20challenging%20experiences%20of%20narcissistic,Self%2Dacceptance

My eldest son said to me recently that he had seen so much "growth as a person" from me since I estranged my mother.

Partially that made me sad because, for a long time I wasn't the best person I could be but it also made me glad because I have worked so hard to move past the abuse.

I do think I have become stronger and more resilient. Understanding my mother has helped me cope with many a difficult person in life because I have come to understand, it was never really about me, it was about them and their unhappiness in life.

It's a shame maybe that it took me to middle age to find this strength to see what drives the people in life who try to hurt us.

V3ra Sun 18-Feb-24 17:39:56

He will no doubt deny assaulting my husband whilst we were there even though we took photos of the injury and informed the police.

That's awful!
Are the police taking any action?
I wouldn't think this would go down too well with your son-in-law's employers?

maddyone Mon 19-Feb-24 12:26:50

I doubt his employers will know anything about it V3ra.
It took place with only one witness, myself. The police will keep it on file. I don’t really want to say much more at the moment.

VioletSky Tue 27-Feb-24 17:03:04

I came across this today

Unhealthy thinking patterns of abusive/neglectful parents

How many of us have heard a few of these eh!