May I offer a little hope?

Hello stillawip thank you for sharing your story.

As you say, some estrangements are irretrievable but that isn't always the case so it's good to hear from someone whose successfully reconciled .

I too am now reconciled with my granchildren who I didn't see for 2yrs when aged 14 and 9 . Four years have now passed since my daughter decided to estrange me , still rarely see them but now they are older they send me texts and I get the occasional visit from their parents and them for a couple of hours . I understand the great pain and loss when this happens . I wish for those who are suffering that you will all have your family back close to you again one day soon .❤️

Lovely to hear stillawip

Thank you for this message. My estrangement is very new and was very sudden. I'm having a hard time with it all today and hearing your message of hope has helped.

Ours was very sudden too oceanlady .

🙏🏼💕

oceanlady

Thank you for this message. My estrangement is very new and was very sudden. I'm having a hard time with it all today and hearing your message of hope has helped.

Oh, I’m so pleased - keep that hope alive for as long as it takes. Sending you my very best wishes for a positive outcome soon 💕

How wonderful!

May this positive post of hope and love be seen by as many affected by estrangement as possible!

That will offer hope and encouragement for those now estranged.

That's so lovely to hear and it's been the same for our family.

Humble pie, maybe both sides, apologies, draw a line one sand, do better and move on. It can happen and glad it did for you Stillawip

stillawip

I’m so very sorry for all going through the heartbreak that is estrangement and some peoples’ situations, I know, are irretrievable. That is such a tragedy , and my heart goes out to you. But I think it is also important for people to know that there can be a light at the end of the tunnel. After 4 years of not seeing my beloved son and his family, we have finally reconciled and are now seeing them and their 3 children more than ever. It took a lot of soul-searching, eating of humble pie and an unflinching look at myself & my past mistakes, but it was so, so worth it. There CAN be a positive end to the story and you should never give up hope. If this gives even a tiny bit of comfort to some people when things seem impossible, then I would be so delighted. My very best wishes to all.

So heartwarming, am really pleased you posted this. Some estranged now could be reconciled at some point in the future. But for those for whom it seems irretrievable, including ourselves, it is so lovely to see that there can a happy ending for some.
Wouldn’t wish estrangement on anyone so this is truly a bit of good news on a slow day for it 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Thank you for that lovely hopeful post, so good to read a positive outcome to an estrangement.
Wishing you lots of happy days ahead stillawip.

Thank you all - I'm so pleased it has helped others, & really appreciate the good wishes from those still estranged. You are all very kind xx

Well done you. 🍾🍾. A lot of these estrangements could be sorted out with some honesty and compromise.

But, it takes two sides to tango, and that can only happen if both sides are willing to tango.

Best wishes. 💐

I also had to eat some humble pie stillawhip. It isn’t fun to contemplate how your behaviour impacted others, but in my case it helped heal a falling out before it turned to an estrangement.

Very grateful to the women on here who gave their honest opinions (even though it was a little on the nose ). I don’t have the time to post on here often atm due to health issues, but occasionally look in and nice to read your happy ending.

Far better to talk before estrangement happens if you can Dilly. It's good to know it was averted in your case .

My story also has a happy ending and I didn't even have to eat humble pie - ironically the problem that caused the estrangement with 2 of my sons became the reason we made contact again and both of my ex-estranged sons have said that my husband and I were 'right all along' and they wished they'd listened to us and not taken the other person's side.
Don't give up - anything is possible💐

Another happy ending Elless .

Great news stillawip!

Thank you Smileless, I had some good advice, from you too I think?

It was so long ago I can’t remember which individual posters helped me (and I was in a bit of a state in my defence).

Mil/dil relationships are tricky, mismatch of personalities, expectations and traditions. Hardly surprising sometimes it goes south. (And less surprising when you have foot in mouth disease like I have )

Lovely to hear there has been reconciliations, its useful to know the reasons you estranged then you can make amends.

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Such kind encouraging messages thank you.
Sadly my youngest son obviously has no wish at all to end the estrangement as my older son who is getting married next month has contacted him and asked him to please come to his wedding. It’s not a big affair, just registry office with family and a lunch afterwards, sadly he has not even acknowledged his brothers message. I have also written to him asking to come but he has ignored me and I just don’t feel I can take any more rejection, I’m too old, too tired and just want a peaceful life.