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Swearing in front of Gc.

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Yammy Sat 16-Oct-21 18:59:22

Do you swear in front of your grandchildren?
I'll admit both DH and I do. Not really bad language but where we come from Blaspheming is still in everyday use and used constantly. So run to hell, or for Christ's sake is common everyday parlance and we don't realise we are doing it. Our family have never objected and the SIL think it is funny. Yet neither of us swore at work
A relation has got into bother for using the same kind of language and was quite upset they did not realise they were doing it and it was repeated by a toddler. Especially after the language that is used today both to other people and even on T.V., it seems pretty mild.
Our grandparents often referred to children as the buggering bairns and we just accepted it.
How would you feel if reprimanded and would you not swear in the first place?

sandelf Mon 18-Oct-21 16:44:30

Depends whether you mind THEM swearing. I'd not do it. Little ones really really do look up to their 'grands' - so they will think swearing is really good if you do it.

Fae1 Mon 18-Oct-21 16:49:11

Wouldn't dream of swearing in front of my children or grandchildren. In fact would refrain from ever swearing in any company. If I'm on my own and stub a toe - then.... it's a different story!!

Kartush Mon 18-Oct-21 16:49:47

It is hard these days as certain words are now almost accepted as part of normal speech. I myself do not use certain words but I admit to the odd bloody hell or bugger.
My nieces vocabulary literally makes my ears curl and yet neither of her children swear because she has taught them not to.
She was telling me about her friends little girl who was about 3 and was sitting in the back of the car saying “ im a good girl hey mam cos I dont say F good girls dont say F only naughty girls say F so im a good girl cos I dont say F.

Polly4t42 Mon 18-Oct-21 17:04:12

I don’t swear so it’s not a problem for me, I remember my Grandma saying Christchurch near Bournemouth when things went wrong as a child i didn’t realise til later she was not blaspheming. If really exasperated I will say phooey or blow.

Grandma70s Mon 18-Oct-21 17:07:38

I didn’t know any swear words more serious than ‘bloody’ until I was grown up. Nobody swore at my girls’ school, nobody swore at home, so I simply never learnt the words. When I read Lady Chatterley at the age of twenty or so I learnt a few words which I gathered from the publicity were considered swear words, but they meant nothing to me and didn’t shock me at all.

Dustyhen2010 Mon 18-Oct-21 17:22:52

I don't swear and try not to blaspheme. OH swears a lot as do DCs but not infront of children. I really hate to hear swearing but it is more and more prolific in society. I also correct GC when she used words that are a bit crude. I usually say, you wouldn't say that if having tea with the queen!
DD, a teacher, told me that on the first day of term with a class of 4/5 year olds she went into the staff room at break to report that the first swear word had been said by a child. Another teacher laughed and asked if it was 'bum' but unfortunately it was the 'f' word.

GreenGran78 Mon 18-Oct-21 17:24:02

I rarely swear. If I do it's never in front of children. If I ever let out the occasional 'b****r in front of my middle-aged daughter she always says, "Mother! Get your rosary beads out!" ?

Barmeyoldbat Mon 18-Oct-21 17:49:47

We lived over where my ex worked and my son was often around the men working. Bad language was a bit of a problem but I told my son it was against the law to swear until you were 21 and he didn’t. Even he doesn’t swear and no I wouldn’t use bad language with children around.

Dianehillbilly1957 Mon 18-Oct-21 18:50:37

Never swore in front of my kids until they learnt it in their teens from school mates!! They definitely don't swear in front of their own children thankfully. In a few years they'll be no doubt teaching me unfortunately!!!

Greciangirl Mon 18-Oct-21 22:43:48

Definitely not in front of grandchildren.

greenlady102 Tue 19-Oct-21 09:16:10

I do swear but NEVER in front of children and I don't ever blaspheme. I would think that parents of the littlies I know would be abolutely right to ask me to control my languuage in front of their children and I would be embarassed and apologetic if I misspoke in front of a child.
If you didn't use that language at work then you can control it and IMO you should.

lightallan Tue 19-Oct-21 15:50:13

Why bother with an issue like this.
When they get to school they will probably teach you a few more words.