divorce

Should have an" easier" in there somewhere!!

Well I guess if everyone's moved on except us grans I suppose we'll have done our job. What I find hard is that you can't text or say "hi, , how are you? " anymore as all of a sudden it means something else, as if you are prying. Would you say annsixty that you are happy 13 years on? What about your DGCs? I feel sick when I think of my little DGS growing up without a mum and dad in the family home and no siblings for support.
Thanks for listening

Help! Anyone out there tonight? What can I do?
Tomorrow we've been invited to my DS' s to share Christmas with our DGS , the estranged DiL, her parents and her brother. Tonight DS and DiL have had one hellova barney. They had been out with friends and she had drunk a lot of bubbly all afternoon. When it came to the bill my DS said she should pay for her own drinks. DS says he doesn't intend to spend his money on an estranged wife.
So..help please. DS has said we're to come and spend Christmas with DGS. That's great but how on earth are we supposed to get through the day with the others? We had intended to stay overnight. DiL still staying at the house.
I've just wrapped the presents with a heavy heart. I just want to shout,rant and cry.

I think you just have to be there for your grandchild to give some stability to the proceedings. Hopefully everyone will behave themselves for the child,s sake. The fallout from a divorce is very far reaching but you really have no choice but to support and be a rock for your grandson. There is no point in taking sides or trying to give advice. It is very unfair on you but that will not change the facts. Be strong and calm - I wish you a peaceful day.

This is still very raw for you Kate emotions will be through the roof just now because of the time of year and the fairly recent separation.

Grit your teeth, don't be drawn into anything and just be there for your grandchildren.

Kate I feel for you and understand how you must be feeling this is the 2nd Christmas my DD has been on her own and we are just really coming out the other end,keep if you can any thoughts to yourself & enjoy the company of your DGS as I'm sure you will know little one's certainly "tune in" to any bad feelings.
Enjoy the day as best you can and I hope things get better for you soon.

Thank you so much for your kind words and good advice. We did get through the two days without any animosity and, amazingly, everyone acted maturely.No sign of anything wrong.It was very strange. My DGS had a wonderful time with his mum and dad and two sets of grandparents plus his uncle.My imminent ex DiL suggested a walk together this morning and we had coffee in town, which was lovely and her parents invited me and DH over in the afternoon. I want to say a BIG THANK YOU to you all because it wouldn't have turned out like this but for all your support and good advice. I'd have screwed it all up if I hadn't found you all. I'm so grateful -these are for all of you

I,ve been thinking about you. Glad it went well.

Kate I'm so pleased everything went smoothly for all concerned, especially your DGS who will accept things a lot easier as long as he sees that Mummy and Daddy, grandparents, are friends.

Hopefully you have some peace of mind now.

I am in tears reading this beautiful, supportive and loving thread for Kate13. It is resonating so deeply with me, as I am going through exactly what Kate13 was experiencing, even down to being weepy, thinking of her son living on his own.
I am reading all the advice given to Kate13 and finding it so helpful. Thank you x
Kate13, I have sent you private message. I would love to know how you are now?