Proud Gran

Well said violette

gillyknits I agree! I don't think I'll put my head above the parapet today.

Nelliemoser, as you say, I do think that you are probably 'over-thinking' MiL's delay in answering your question about the cousin's results. I'm personally very uncomfortable in competitive conversations about children. I know I tend to hold back when asked about results because I don't want my listeners to feel I am bragging or showing-off, or indeed that I am attempting to put-down the other child's achievements. I would always say how great the achievements are of the child being talked about at the time.

Lillie I see what the OP means - at DGD's school some children were physically sick as they were so nervous and wound up at the thought of the tests.

These were 7-8 year olds, not even the 11 year olds.
As I say, DGD took it in her stride as her parents did not make a huge issue of it.

I'm not keen on the whole SATS thing, for very many reasons which are too boring to enumerate, but why shouldn't OP be proud of her grandson? I'm very proud of all my dear GC, and consider them far superior to all other youngsters. I'm sure that most grans feel the same, deep down!

I can't believe I am reading these comments. We have a gran who is proud of her gs achievements and then we have a whole load of what I an only regard as spiteful comments. Just be a bit "nicer" to other people with your comments.

Whats the problem with us as Grandparents being proud of our grandchildren?.. In this case it was how her grandson conducted himself during a stressful time of taking SATS (which may be the real issue here for some if they are worthwhile or not)
I'm proud of my 2 GC...they get certificates for the number of books they read, for drawing a picture of the Queen, for being helpful in class etc etc.
We can all say and should be able to say we are proud of our GC in whatever they do

Well said Shazmo, you put it so much better than me

Well, I asked GS how he got on with the SATS. He said it was "boring". How did he do? "medium". That'll do.

If children were "nervous and physicially sick", there's something wrong there. Fault of either the teacher or the parents.

I watched my youngest gd today at her end of year show(she attends a stage school for three hours a week every Sunday) she danced, sang and acted her socks off. I was more than proud, she was amazingly superstar wonderful. This is what real in your face bragging looks like, not like the OP spoke about her gs whom many of you have ripped to shreds, shame on you.

DD was anxious about her class results as she's had to have three months off for a two major operations.

They did her proud - she taught them well.

I'm so pleased for her.

It was bad enough listening to other mothers when my children were young, it always made me feel they were real thickos. So does it perpetuate with grandchildren? Can we just grow up. Someone tell me what am I meant to say when the wunderkin are bigged up.

Wow! Remind me not to post that I am proud of my Grandchildren on Gransnet. Will get lynched.

I think the OP would have been fine if the last sentence had been left out. It spoils the whole thing by changing the tone. Shame.

I used to work with a lovely lady who had 4 grandchildren. If you ever got cornered into a conversation with her she would bring out the photos and you would hear extensive details about each child's achievements, brownie badges, what sports teams they were in, how brilliant they were at singing, GCSEs results ad infinitum. I know she was a proud mum and gran, but it was tedious.

Exactly Wilma ... It's nothing to do with being a proud gran, but everything to do with suggesting that those who couldn't hack it simply ought to chance their attitude.

Have a little understanding of children who try their hardest but still don't make the grade.

Of course proud grandmothers (and grandfathers) like to tell everyone about the achievements of their grandchildren. I must admit that when I read the OP, it did remind me of the dreaded Christmas Round Robin letter. So for those of you who are still 'blessed' with these, I thought you might enjoy Lynne Truss's imagined replies: www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-20810452

When my Grandaughter did her year two stats, none of the class really knew they were doing them, her teacher made it a fun day took them off to the library at the school a few at a time and they just got on with it. Mind you she was and still is a great teacher,actually head of the school now and still finds time to teach. No I don't like stats but not everything in life is easy and children today can be mollycolled. My grandaughter is 15 now gone off to school with the strops because she is tired and didn't want to go but that's life isn't it we have to teach them that this is the way it is.

BadenKate I've just dropped the GC at school and sat down in Costa to read your link. Getting some strange looks as I nearly inhaled my flat white!

Thanks for the laugh

Originally these SATS were supposed to assess the schools, not the individual children. The children were to hardly notice that they were being examined. The head teachers are most likely the ones responsible for the angst.

There is a massive difference between being proud of your C/GC and telling everyone every detail as stated above. I have a friend like that, her son is 50 now and with him and his own C and her other GC I await the phone call on any results day. I and her other friends never need to ask , we are told. That is what I don't like, and I don't apologise for my feelings.

I have rethought and actually feel quite sad at the reaction that rafichagran has had from a few people here. I hope GN is not getting more like the "other place" perhaps , Haven't we all rejoiced in our DGCS' achievements and perhaps spoken first and felt dashed afterwards because others don't share our happiness?

In reply to the post which said that she knew a proud Gran who was tedious, showing photograph ext, let's get one thing straight, I do not do this and I never have done, I do not have the time, I posted my pride in my Grandson that is all, I have not done this before. As for you Anya, you do not know me, if my Grandson had got grades that were much lower I still would have posted, it was the way he conducted himself that I was so proud off. I have every understanding of children who try hard and as you put it don't make the grade. I was just proud of my Grandson and was pleased to say it.

Jingls I think DGD's teacher would have been calm, pragmatic and kind and treated the tests as nothing out of the ordinary, can't blame her.
However, some of the parents discovered example papers online and had their DC 'practising' beforehand, then wondered why they were so anxious.