Everything has gone to pot!

As the full-time weekday child minder for all of my GC this always fell to me to sort.

One grandson, at 18 months I literally trained in one day. He got it straight away and rarely had an accident from then on. Another, a granddaughter, I only just managed to get sorted just after her 4th birthday, in time for school. In fact the first week there she had an 'accident' but only the once.

The others were somewhere in between.

There is no simple answer. They are all very different.

My DS went out of daytime nappies at eighteen months......we weren't trying to get him 'dry', but he did have a potty in the bathroom, and occasionally made it there in time.
One hot day he was in the garden, running around in just a t-shirt and canvas shoes.
Suddenly he stopped running, stood absolutely still, then shrieked "Mummy, I've weed in my shoes". I managed to stop myself laughing, cleaned him up, put his shoes in the washing machine, and he never 'weed' anywhere but the potty/loo again. He obviously didn't like the sensation of wet shoes

My youngest grandson recently visited us from abroad he's had a potty in the bathroom but no pressure from either parent unless he asked to use it, he's now over 3 and I was really surprised to see he was completely out of nappies day and night. Mum said he suddenly realised at nursery that some of the other kiddies asked for the toilet and asked if he could go 'pottie', she said he 'got it' within a week and asked for no nappy so she and the nursery staff just went with him and then he said no to nappy at bedtime and hasn't wet the bed since. He's had a couple of daytime accidents but that's it and quite painless. I think there is something to be said for leaving it a bit longer I wish I'd done it the painless way when mine were young 'grin'.
Oh and those fold up potties are just so handy they carry it with them and can whip it out for 'quick I need to pee' and dispose of the bag very easily they even used it on the flight over.

I think the longer you leave it the easier it is. I'm talking two to two and a half or so. Once they are ready it can be sorted in a week or two.

I think toilet training in "our" day was a rather more pressing issue if you were stil using Terry nappies with a noxious nappy bucket in your bathroom!!
Pull-ups are a boon and a blessing and while there is no one ideal age, I assume most children get there eventually. It is a kindness to nurseries of course not to leave it all to them
DD and I were in the baby changing room in John Lewis when she stayed recently (DGS 8 weeks at the time) and were a little nonplussed by a rather large little boy, Indian, maybe, who looked easily at least 4 or 5 who was brought in to have his nappy changed. Maybe there was an underlying problem, but he was extremely chatty and alert with no obvious signs of any physical problem.
None of my business of course.