The worst grandmother in the world versus the Grandma in My Grandma is Amazing book

Not very heartening for you Stansgran is it? Are you having him for the week because of illness?He sounds very homesick.

Spoil him a bit,buy bigger ice creams.

What a cheeky boy! I'd point out that the worst Gran in the world wouldn't give him any ice cream at all and if that's what you are then goodbye cornettos at all!!

Gosh ! you must have felt terrible, We take ours shopping and they choose what they want, but we are the only Grandparents, having to compete, what are you going to do at Christmas.

Good Luck.

Back off! I claim that title! How old is he?

tell him cheeky monkeys don't get treats & withhold them long enough for him to start feeling deprived

Ours doesn't get mini cornettos or and other icecream unless he eats his dinner and then he has a scoop of vanilla (which I admit is his favourite) or maybe an ice lolly when we are out. We do do lots with him though, look out for free/cheap events to go to, lucky enough to live quite near the beach so go there or to the park or for a walk in the wood where we collect cones or leaves and so on to make thing with when we get back. We play games and read together a lot, though at six he is an excellent reader, play ball in the garden etc. He likes the fact we have time to devote just to him and always wants to come to stay if he gets the chance for a weekend or a week. I don't think the things they are given or the treats in terms of sweets, ice cream etc it is the one to one time and fun. Is the Amazing Grandma a character in a book? How old is he? Sounds as if he is anxious about being away so there may be a reason for that. Don't beat yourself up about it, we can all only do our best.

Tell him the big ice creams are in a book, and yours are real, so which would he rather have

A full sized Cornetto is far too large and full of calaories for a little child so by buying the mini version you are clearly the best grandma as you are considering his health and keeping him from obesity. The little one is far too young to see it this way, however, and will put emotional pressure on you which you will have to ignore and deflect.

I can't count the number of times I was told I was being mean/cruel/ nasty etc. by my children. They don't think so now they have grown up.

I bet the little'un says exactly the same thing to 'The Amazing Grandma' anyway!

Stansgran I'm sure there's lots of other things you're great at as a grandma and won't begin to list the possibilities

As to counting the days till his mum takes him home, don't treat that as a negative. He could be sad to be leaving you so soon or he could just be missing his mum. These are for you anyway as I'm sure you'll be missing him come Saturday afternoon.

I live with my daughter and 3 grandchildren. As my daughter is now a single parent and works full time I look after them and do all the housework/cooking etc. My grandson is 13 and a real grump. He doesn't take kindly to my having the say over what happens whilst I am looking after them, or that, when my daughter says he isn't allowed his x-box and/or phone I won't hand them over to him. He is quite nasty at times, I have been told 'you've got no friends Nan', 'just die Nan' and 'no-one wants you Nan' just this morning because I wouldn't let him snatch his laptop away from his little sister who was watching something on it but told him he had to wait until she finished watching. I know he is upset about how his father has behaved and just hope that things will settle down soon - I miss the 'nice' grandson I used to have until two years ago

Parents dictate and lay down the rules.

Grandparents give cuddles and lots of treats.

I can't believe that a couple of you posters have forgotten that, lighten up, they are not children for long and then they are gone.

Ours are 3 and 5, and the son is starting to think about a family, happy times for awhile yet.

I like the response from MooBox!

Does your daughter know this is going on? She needs to have a serious talk to her son ideally with you there, telling him some home truths about their dependency on you. This is a totally unacceptable position for you to be in so don't stand for it.

OMG DotMH1901 Nan', 'just die Nan' and 'no-one wants you Nan'

I hope your daughter knows about this, that's disgusting. He's growing up with a false sense of entitlement that will screw his life up for ever. There are children in the news who are violent towards other children and family. He sounds like one in training. Daughter needs to get a grip now!

for you

DotMH1901 - that really is unacceptable behaviour which you should report to your daughter. If I were in your position I would be very upset and refuse to do anything more for him unless I got a proper apology.

Moobox---best reply ever!
Big ice-creams are bad for any age! Too many consider "treats" to mean calorific, additive filled junk!
Treats should be more about spending time talking and listening, joining in games, visits outdoors, books etc.
Grans shouldn't be helping to guide children towards obesity, over-indulgence and treat expectation?

Agree with the last three posters - it is totally unacceptable for any child to use such disrespectful language to anyone, let alone a grandparent. Speak to his mother DotMH, and soon. As for the original post, I think we are getting to the stage now, with our GS, nine, where he only just enjoys being at nanny's house for a couple of nights a week during the holidays. We do lots of stuff with him, but he can't wait, these days to get back to his friends. He is sometimes grumpy but not disrespectful and woe betide him if he were.

My dil ( now my ex d-in-law) once told me I was a mean gran because unlike other grans I didn't buy the children Easter Eggs. I pointed out that they, along with her were fat enough without stuffing themselves full of chocolate and that unlike the other side of the family I took them out, took them away on mini bucket and spade holidays and also contributed two wards other things they needed or school trips. I am pleAsed to say my son divorced her and the children wanted to live with, which they did.

Gononsuch the treats and cuddles are fine when
a) they are little and
b) you only have them on occasions but if you are a part care taker and they are 6 foot it's a very different situation it's not as easy as it sounds
Please don't write your grandson off as a bad lad DotMH or a soon to be delinquent, at 13 and with home worries and changing hormones boys are often full of angst grumpiness anger and testosterone at that age it will tail off as he matures boys are often emotionally very immature and lash out like 2 year olds because they don't have the words or 'permission from society' to say I m hurting I need cuddles and understanding they hear how they have to be strong and big And idles are for babirpes ...it's an awful tim for some kids

Blimey iPad you are a pain that last bit should read cuddles are for babies not idles are for barbirpes .... I wish we could edit on here

My daughter told me yesterday that she'd read something about dehydration causing grumpiness and unruly/naughty behaviour.

Hi I'm new to grans net I am a nana have 6 grandchildren who I love very much I don't see 4 of my granddaughters who we were so close to reason for this was one of them always used to swear at us all the time realy cheeky her mam used to laugh so when we said we couldn't look after her as we couldn't control Her we were told we would never see them again as it was wrong of us to say that am I wrong? By speaking out it is awful miss them so much it has been 3 years now jj

Moobox great reply . He hands me the nick Butterfield book each night for his bedtime story. I read one and he reads another. His mum is working and I have them for a week . They are going on a multiple sports course and were a bit out of their comfort zone I think being a week with me and no mum . He doesn't eat well so the mini cornettos I thought would be a treat to unwind when they got back from the course. I love them ( DGCs and mini cornettos! )