Could this be some kind of sibling rivalry or jealousy?

I agree with tanith, if your daughter doesn't want the baby things then a charity shop will be glad of them. Don't over think things.
Enjoy the new baby and don't worry.

I am not sure you are overthinking but I don't think it is anything to worry about. I have felt the same sort of thing between two of my daughters when the latest grandchild arrived, maybe a little worry that I would love the new grandchild more than the others. of course, you and I know that it is nonsense, that we love them all the same, but maybe sisters never quite grow out of that rivalry. They still love each other dearly though. I would accept that we only children don't quite understand, but that it is nothing to worry about.

Congratulations on the forthcoming new babies x i would just keep the things you have , there have been many a time when my GC were little and have been at my house and there has been the need for clean clothes and something spilt on their clothes or some other reason , or when they are older a change of clothes needed to be out in garden, its amazing also what parents sometimes forget when they come for a visit with little ones, thankfully my daughter has never told me not to give children second hand clothes or toys ,i always make sure they are clean ,

I think you are overthinking this and seeing problems that more than likely only exist to you. Just offer them and the do whatever you need to do with them.

Just spoken to my daughter again. Basically think it's just a case of as she wouldn't want second hand stuff she's assuming her sister wouldn't either. I think I'm just a bit paranoid worrying unnecessarily that there may be tensions or rivalry developing. I'm an only child so I don't understand about that kind of thing.

Just ask.

Yes, why on earth can't you just ask the expectant mum whether she'd like the things? What's it got to do with your other daughter?

You don't really need her 'permission' to offer them as they are in your house anyway, I'd just offer them before they go to the charity shop, you never know she might grateful.

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I dropped some stuff off at a charity shop last week and a very young couple were pleading for baby stuff. They looked like they had very little and it sounded like they'd appreciate anything offered.