Hubby and I watched our fourteen year old twin grandchildren (in their own house) while DD and SIL were on a seven day vacation. We got up at the crack of dawn every day to drive them both to school and then again in the afternoon. I made them breakfast, fixed their lunches and cooked dinner. Our grandson was always ready to come home on time but our granddaughter is another story.
On day one she texted us that she was going for ice cream (about a mile from the school) and to pick her up there an hour later. An hour later, we arrived to get her and she asked if a young (male) schoolmate could get a ride to his home. Every day there were similarly unscheduled and unplanned activities. The last day, she was at her friend's house and friend's mom kindly offered to bring her home. At six she called asking if it was ok for friend's mother to take her to another friend's house. She added that another mother could then bring her home. That's when I said NO! She was to come home as we originally agreed. Needless to say, she wasn't happy and demanded I call my DD right away. Unfortunately,
DD and SIL were mid flight and no way of getting in touch.
Long story short, my DD later called me about it. She claimed that I had upset DGD tremendously and had 'embarrassed' her in front of her friends. DGD also accused me of not trusting her. I explained that it wasn't about trust but about being thoughtless and inconsiderate. We are now in our 70s and no longer have the energy to be chauffeuring her ad hoc and on short notice.
MY DD is now upset with ME! So what could I have said differently? DG is not a bad kid, but I find her behaviour to be somewhat manipulative. MY DD and SIL travel frequently and they count on us to watch the twins. I don't know what DGD told her mother, but there is now some resentment. I love my granddaughter very much but would like to avoid a repeat and not sure how to do that without breaking some more eggshells.
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