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On labour ward. This is stressful!

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Flaxseed Thu 31-Aug-17 02:24:57

DD was admitted last night after a check for decreased foetal movements revealed high blood pressure at 38 weeks.
She only moved to her first home last week so her hospital bag was at mine.
I brought it up to hospital and now can't bring myself to leave her.
She has cannulas, a catheter, bp monitoring, foetal monitoring, and regular medication.
I work here (not a Midwife) so it's good to see familiar faces but I am not used to being 'on the other side' and it's so scary.
Just looking for a hand hold really confused

Liz46 Thu 31-Aug-17 18:01:30

Congratulations from me too.

ninathenana Thu 31-Aug-17 18:07:57

Congratulations to all the family, welcome to the world little man.

I was with you in spirit this morning

merlotgran Thu 31-Aug-17 18:08:06

Many congratulations. Glad it all went well after an anxious time.

Anya Thu 31-Aug-17 18:42:19

Congratulations flowers and to DJ too flowers

Luckygirl Thu 31-Aug-17 18:49:26

More congrats - for dj this time.

Cherrytree59 Thu 31-Aug-17 19:09:22

Congratulations to flaxseed and DJflowerssunshine

durhamjen Thu 31-Aug-17 19:15:31

Thanks. I've just woken up having fallen asleep this afternoon.
You will catch up too, tomorrow, flaxseed, I hope.
Grandson found his lungs today, and opened his eyes - just to glare at people and then went back to sleep again. We don't know what colour his eyes are yet.

Imperfect27 Thu 31-Aug-17 19:20:13

Congratulations durhamjen and family xxx Well, what a busy time!!! flowers

Flaxseed Thu 31-Aug-17 19:35:42

Thanks DJ! I really do need to sleep. I'm on a night shift tomorrow night!

DD just text to say BP has gone up again.
I really hoped the delivery of GS would stop this!

But the kind posts on here have confirmed that's not always the case sad

Treebee Thu 31-Aug-17 19:48:39

Many congratulations Flaxseed. So glad your grandson arrived safely. Wishing your DD a speedy recovery, how good that you were with her.

Menopaws Thu 31-Aug-17 20:15:20

Congratulations Durham and flax, lovely lovely xx

ElaineI Thu 31-Aug-17 20:22:10

Congratulations Flaxseed and Durhamjen wonderful news and I am sure both mummies will feel better soon! flowers

cornergran Thu 31-Aug-17 20:44:29

Congratulations too for you dj and your family. Hope you feel more rested tomorrow.

Also hope you can sleep flaxseed, a night shift is no small thing. Please try not to worry, easier said than done I know. Hoping your daughter is her usual self tomorrow.

Auntieflo Thu 31-Aug-17 23:08:30

Wonderful happy news and congratulations to Flaxseed, Durhamjen, and all recent new grandparents. So glad everything went well.

Nelliemoser Thu 31-Aug-17 23:27:37

Congratulations Flaxseed and durhamjen. It seems a very long time since we had a collective baby to welcome on GN.

Anniepops Fri 01-Sept-17 08:04:55

I was following the earlier part of this post yesterday. Congratulations to your family and happy wishes for the new baby.

Flaxseed Fri 01-Sept-17 09:18:18

Poor DD is still poorly.
Her blood pressure is still fluctuating, she's exhausted and sore.
She needs more blood tests today and medication.
It's breaks my heart that this special time is marred by all of this.
She was upset in the night as she couldn't reach him as she was so sore. The midwives were run off their feet with mum's who were delivering, so couldn't help much. (She's still on labour ward due to needing intervention)
They did eventually take him for a couple of hours so that she could sleep.
On a positive note, little man is breastfeeding nicely

Hopefully my shift tonight won't be too busy so I can have a cuddle whilst she sleeps grin

Watching your own child suffering has to be one of the worst aspect of parenting doesn't it?!

Flaxseed Fri 01-Sept-17 09:50:26

And now she's been told her placenta had started to fail.

Thank goodness she went up when she did!
I'm not sure what the outcome would have been otherwise but I don't think it would have been good. sad

Sorry I sound all gloomy!
I'm feeling really upset about it all today!

paddyann Fri 01-Sept-17 10:04:30

I think you have to be positive ,what if's wont help her or you.You're new wee person is here and doing well and your daughter is being looked after.Sounds harsh I know but as someone whose baby was whisked off to SCBU and stayed there for almost three months you've had a great result.Be grateful and smile when you see her,if she thinks you're worried it wont help her BP and she'll think you're hiding things which you clearly have no need to do.Breathe slowly and think positive thoughts

mumofmadboys Fri 01-Sept-17 10:09:01

Just to reassure you Flaxseed that pre- eclampsia only happens with the first baby . It can only happen with a second if you have a different father. It seems to have some immunological basis. Hypertension in pregnancy can happen again but not the swelling and risk of fits that happens in pre eclampsia.
Hope DD is much better soon. Congratulations from me too.

durhamjen Fri 01-Sept-17 10:14:45

Flaxseed, my daughter in law and grandson are going home today. He was born a day before your grandson.
My daughter in law had to have another operation yesterday morning, to make sure she was okay, as they could not sew her up properly after he was born, because of the complicated caesarian.
I hope this reassures you. Yesterday morning they were saying they would be kept in until next week. Now they think they can go home today. Things change quickly.

cornergran Fri 01-Sept-17 10:36:12

The emotion is understandable flaxseed, it's all been very tense. Chin up, your daughter is having good care and your little grandson is feeding well. You will be close by tonight and tomorrow things may look so much better.

Purpledaffodil Fri 01-Sept-17 10:38:00

Lurking on this thread, but had to pop up and say how lovely to hear DJ's happy outcome and hope her DIL will soon be able to move in comfort ?
Flaxseed it is awful to see your child suffer, hope you are soon able to celebrate a homecoming too flowers to you both.

paddyann Fri 01-Sept-17 11:37:02

*mumof madboys" that not correct,my first and third pregnancies were plagued with pre eclampsia,one baby died and one lived ,baby in the middle I had no problem apart from the vile all day sickness.I was married to the same man during all my pregnancies...still am .but pre eclampsia can appear in any pregnancy.Always best to know and be on the lookout for early symptoms .Otherwise you could overlook them or dismiss it as being unimportant with bad results

Sar53 Fri 01-Sept-17 14:44:18

Congratulations Flaxseed and Durhamjen on the birth of your new grandchildren. My DD2 had pre-eclampsia with her first baby 9 years ago and is now pregnant with her second and the hospital are keeping a very close eye on her. It can happen again and we are keeping our fingers crossed. I know how worrying it can be for everyone.