Thanks ! I looked it up & it's 'Original Poster' glad it's not Old Person anyway !! I'm new to forums as mentioned. Useful to see there is a key under acronyms on Gransnet but OP is not listed - there must be other newcomers to forums in general surely ?!
I didn't have parents or parents in law around when my children were young. The only grandparent alive was my mother who was unable /unwilling to get involved. This was a pattern. She left my father & I when I was 4 years old. Thereafter, I saw my mother and her then new 3rd husband 3 times a year, when I would be taken to stay with them for 3-4 weeks during the school holidays. This went on till I left school. She moved 7 times whilst I was growing up so I frequently went to places I didn't know. She went back to work part time when I was a teenager so I was left in the house alone during the day. I spent my time reading all the books in the house. ) My father died when I was 26, I married at 27 and when my children were very young, my mother was widowed ( she had come back to live in the same town with my stepfather a few years before.) My mother being on her own became very demanding, & expected me to rush over when she was in 'distress' frequently. In the end my husband & I decided to live nearer to her so that I didn't have to keep bundling baby & toddler in the car to help. It was an extremely stressful time. In the end we got a live in companion for her but they tore their hair out, she was struck off the local GP list for her excessive demands. At one stage we took in daily meals to her ( I minute late & she was on the phone !!) Eventually, she had a series of strokes & had to go into a nursing home...they had their work cut out ! So..... I have no role models / experience & I do want to get it right !!
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