Hi everyone. I'm at my wits end with my relationship with my adult child, who lives at home with us, along with our grandchild.
Our grandchild is the product of a relationship our daughter had with someone who was abusive and controlling. That relationship ended when my grandson, who is 4 now, was a baby, and the abusive ex has been prevented from having contact as a result.
I get that my daughter, who also has an eating disorder, had a terrible experience as a result of the relationship. But living at home with us and her little boy, our relationship has hit rock bottom. She doesn't work or attend any form of education, and sleeps in until midday regularly whilst I babysit when the little one is not at nursery and I'm not at work, including weekends. She takes no part in keeping the house clean and doing everyday chores when we are at work, saying she forgot and its up to me to remind her. She has used our credit cards without permission to the point they are maxed out.
If I confront her, she is rude, and abusive and it ends up in a screaming match. She says if she leaves she'll take my grandchild with her, and that as she has no money I'd be making them homeless. As I've spent so much time babysitting my grandson we are really close, he's like a son to me, and with no job I know my daughter would never manage financially bringing him up alone.
I know my daughter has been through a lot, and I don't have the heart to force them to find somewhere else to live, especially my grandson. My daughter knows this and I feel as if I'm being treated like a doormat but don't see a way out. I'd really appreciate some advice.
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