My Son & DiL live overseas with our GC. Back in May/June, DiL's parents told me that they would be visiting my DS, DiL and GC, at the end of Aug for a few days so, basically, she was letting me know, in a roundabout way, that we would be unable to visit at the same time. I realized straight away that the reason they were visiting then was because it was our GC's first birthday. Of course, I knew this, and I was secretly hoping for my husband and I to be asked if we'd like to visit, even staying in a hotel. We do all get along very well, but there has been the odd issue with DiLs mother on occasion.
To back track slightly, DS & DiL have only recently moved there, and they've had problems with childcare, so DiLs mother went out for a few days last month to help, then I took over from her for nearly 2 weeks. She told me the date that they'd be returning, and that I'd only need to stay until the day they arrived, and I could fly home that day, as there weren't enough beds until the new ones arrived ... They returned the day before GCs birthday. I slept on a make-shift bed that night, and had to leave on the morning of GCs birthday, so I didn't even get to see her open her presents. I know that my son was feeling rather awkward and embarrassed about it all, and he knew I was upset, but no one mentioned the fact that it was a shame I couldn't stay, or even suggested that I book into a hotel for an extra day or two, which I would quite happily have done, had I not felt that I was intruding on the other GPs special time with our GC. I think the other GM couldn't wait for me to walk out of the door!
Son & DiL thanked me for all my help, and DiL said she would send me a video clip of GC opening her presents (she didn't!). My son did send a couple of photos of GC, but not with any of the gifts we had bought. And I've not even received a thank you from either of them. But I am fully aware that they are probably busy with having the other GPs there. The other GM has plastered photos on fb, saying what a wonderful time they've all had, etc., which I found rather insensitive. It's not something I would've done under the same circumstances. To be perfectly honest, I'm feeling snubbed, and extremely upset by the insensitivity of the whole situation. I know my husband feels the same, but we obviously won't say anything as we don't want to create an atmosphere amongst the family.
We do so much for our son and DiL, but I really feel that we are being treated unfairly. We are fully aware that DiL is very intimidated by her own mother, and our DS wouldn't dream of speaking his mind for fear of upsetting anyone.
I'm sitting here with my upset slowly turning into smoldering anger at the injustice of it all. How do I handle this, without ending up saying something which I may later regret? Or am I just being a silly, emotional woman?
Heated Brush recommendation,please.