Ungrateful family

Hi, you know that you are being taken advantage of.
It will continue if you don’t change something.
We can not expect others to read our minds and if you’ve put up with it up to now, they don’t know it’s a problem.
Don’t wait until you’re annoyed.
Tell them while you are in good spirits but be firm.
“This is how it makes me feel”
No pointing the finger or personal remarks just focus on their behaviour.
Explain how you would like it to change.
..and move on.
Good luck. ?

I once shut myself in the bathroom with a cup of tea and magazine when my children were quite young, because they were driving me potty. "Please come out, mum. We'll be good," they said. It was so much easier when they were younger! You should say you have plans for the morning and go out for a nice coffee at the very least, before they expect you to cook breakfast too. Then you can gather your thoughts, and tell them how things are going to be.

Suggest making a rota for everyone and everything! Use Christmas as a reason if you don’t want to tell them outright. It’s a ‘busy time of year’ and you all have things to do, places to go, people to see! Need to share rather burden!

I would do what I could for the dog and the baby, they can’t look after themselves, but every one else should be made to pull their bloomin’ weight!

You're running round like crazy with everyone totally taking you for granted but you still continue to do it. Unless you make some changes and start putting yourself first then everyone is going to continue treating you like a mug. People very often exploit the kindness of others and see no reason to stop. Only you can change the situation.

I would not do any of it for any of them. They are adults, should be looking after you. You need to stand your ground here and point out all you have said here. Good luck!

Jura2
Do you mean skivvy? As in slave
Or squiffy? As in drunk?

Gonegirl " And do nothing for the dog"......It's not the dogs fault it's there!

people treat you the way you let them, call a meeting, and tell them your house your rules, tell them what your happy with doing and what gets on your nerves, if they dont like it show them all the door,

janxxx is spot on, however I would add, the next time they find fault tell them where the door is if they want to be critical.
And tell them if they stay they must pay rent and your not their maid. They will walk all over you if you let them. You owe them nothing.

OP,

Are you doing all this (cooking, taking care of dog, etc) because they are asking you or it is assumed it won't get done unless you do it?

Example: lunch - nobody is getting up to prepare lunch 15 minutes before lunchtime so you do it

UNGRATEFUL WRETCHES, for goodness sake SAY SOMETHING

I'm an adult daughter and would never dream of doing that to my mom. Your kids need to get their sh** together. Don't be a martyr. You seem very frazzled and exhausted. Stop cooking and lie down. Start sharing out duties. The house needs to run like a well oiled machine with their help or they have to get out. Money is also required from them, even if it's just a token.