I’ve posted before about my daughters ex. He’s my 9 year old GS dad. Daughter lives with me with GS and younger GS with different dad. The ex wasn’t interested in GS as a baby-spent 5 months pushing abortion. Then went off for 3 years working on cruise ships. Returned in 2017 and started demanding access on his terms. GS has ADHD and Aspergers. Ex denied diagnosis and dragged daughter to court for faster/considerably more access. We got a court order not considering GS issues. The ex texts demanding holidays, gives no time for reply, a couple of days later he’ll send Solicitors letter (to wrong house no), then a signed letter from him. It never stops. My daughter battles with ME so all this aggravates it.
Yesterday a large pack arrives - he’s now got another court hearing, miles away with a huge list of wants. Daughter asks GS if he wants to see his dad more. GS said no, happy ad it is. She can’t cope with hearing. She’d sent a list of holiday dates in Nov. He says he hadn’t got it. She resent it in Dec. He says he hadn’t got it. Told her to get more efficient phone as I told her to send copy to me and I didn’t get it.
All this affects me - I shake, my stomach reacts, I can’t get situation out of head. To start new year like this is horrid.
GS knows his dad pushes for Court at times, he’s knows his dad has lied on what GS has said. We don’t want to involve him but again this Court application is full of fabrications. He is trying to get daughter involved in transport at times she is feeding/putting baby to bed. Police advised her to stay away from him as she is petrified of him.
Ex says GS exhibits severe anxiety on returning here- we see a boy who rushes in excitedly, smiles, says how glad he is to be home.
We like to involve GS in choices. His dad controls/manipulated.
I just don’t know what to do or how to cope any more. I can’t just tell daughter to keep it to herself as she needs support. I have been through this situation years ago with a divorce 😢
Any advice ladies. So sorry this is long.
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