My husband and I are both in our 60's. He is retired. I still work full time and am legal guardian and conservator for my 94 year old dad who is in skilled nursing right now (went there from AL due to health issues) but I am shopping for memory care for the next move. Covid has allowed me to have my Saturday's back, as I do not make my weekly visit to my dad which has actually been nice -- I've been at this 5-1/2 years. Our son, wife, and 2 year old granddaughter live down the street. My daughter-in-law is working from home right now and watching the 2 year old (daycare is open but they have decided not to send her.) We go back and forth and probably see them for a short time twice a week. I am careful not to intervene too much as I respect their time and don't want to be a grandma that butts in all the time. My job has allowed me to work from home so I am here all day. I go to exercise classes 4 days during the week after work and on Sunday. Our second granddaughter is due the end of August. My daughter-in-law's mom lives overseas and is unable to come and help this time because of Covid, like she did the first time. I could tell that our visit with them yesterday was uncomfortable. My husband and son talked. They are upset that I don't take my granddaughter for a couple hours at a time. I'm still trying to figure out how I would do that given I work full time and then to Zumba. (don't ask me to give that up because I won't). Maybe I could squeeze out some time from the weekend but I also brought up the fact to my husband that since he is retired and here all day that maybe he could bring her down here for longer visits and watch her himself. She is a handful and our house is not child-proof. You literally have to watch her all the time. My guess is that they want me to bring her here during the week for a couple hours during the work week to give mom a break but I really can't do that and work too. I feel like this is being pushed on me and that if I sit down for some quiet time or TV, I am feeling guilty--like that time should be dedicated to her instead of myself. I guess I'm still learning the boundaries of being a grandparent. I love her to death but she is a handful and it gets really tiring. You literally can't do anything else while she's here. How does a grandma balance the needs of her own life with her grandchildren? This is going to be doubled when the next one comes. My husband and I commented to each other that we had no help whatsoever when our kids were little. His parents were already gone and mine played no role in our kids lives at all. Trying to be a good grandma but still have plenty of time for me!
Good Morning Saturday 20th April 2024
Estranged Son and Future Granddaughter
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