Not so patient grandpa

I wouldn’t make too much of it as they enjoyed a game afterwards.
I do find that a lot a men , all ages, are keen to play with a child/ children . They get them all excited but get fed up before the child. Then they tend to get grumpy and cross with the child because they want to carry on the fun. Seen it happen so many times.

I think you are over reacting as well Littleswan just let this go. I'm sure your husband will be more careful next time. They obviously got over it as they had another water fight later.

Think you're talking about my husband. He done this sort of thing a few times with the GC. He loves to see them but is short on patience and he can sulk. I've pulled him up a few times over the years for this, but he still does it occasionally. Luckily they still come, he hasn't put them right off.

Children need to learn about people's actions and reactions, it's how they cope with life and growing up. Men sometimes can't cope with people crying and react badly. But your GS had a water fiht with his GF so things are OK between them. He told his mum GF made him sad, and perhapshe was for a little while, but I bet he got another cuddle!
Just one warning. Children remember, so next time your DH is sitting in the sunshine I hope he finds it funny when DGS turns the hose on him!

Chewbacca

There was a water fight. A child cried. A man sulked. There was another water fight. Child and man enjoyed it.

End of story.

? brilliant. ??

Madgran77 so a grandfather misreading the signals and getting ove- boisterous with a grandchild is child abuse?

What should we do? lock him up with all those paedophiles and those who systematic abuse children and throw away the key?

Yes, his DGF was silly, he upset his grandson for a short period but the child later on agreed to a water fight and told his mother it was fun.

Never mind *madgran77, I do understand, the weather is very hot and the heat is affecting your judgment.

Madgran77 so a grandfather misreading the signals and getting ove- boisterous with a grandchild is child abuse?

What should we do? lock him up with all those paedophiles and those who systematic abuse children and throw away the key?

Yes, his DGF was silly, he upset his grandson for a short period but the child later on agreed to a water fight and told his mother it was fun.

Never mind *madgran77, I do understand, the weather is very hot and the heat is affecting your judgment.

Monica I DID NOT say it was child abuse, that was newatthis which is why the original comment was in bold in my post with a confused emoji afterwards!! Ofcourse it is not child abuse as several other posters have also said

Never mind Monica,as you said to me, the weather is hot and must be affecting your reading GN post skills!!

There was a water fight. A child cried. A man sulked. There was another water fight. Child and man enjoyed it. End of story

Actually Chewbacca, despite my previous post suggesting a chat, which I still think wouldn't be a bad idea, I tend to agree with you.

Thast "actually" reads a bit bolshie doesn't it, wasn't meant to ...just a "thinking about it" sort of actually!!

Oh dear, yup the heat is getting to me, I will shut up

Madgran77. My apologies. As I said the weather is getting to us all, including me!

For goodness sake, I have heard it all now, even the suggestion about child abuse is odd.
This scenario plays out all the time, kids soon move on, it's over, dont sweat the small stuff. I would not give this a second thought.
Grandpa and Grandson will play fight another day.

Monica ?

That would be a grandpa my kid wouldn't see unless he learns kids are kids.

"It is a joke" - grandpa minimizing what he did to upset his gc and shaking responsibility off

Sending gc inside so neighbours wouldnt be disturbed with gc's crying - what kind of grandparent is he?

OP's sulking - behaving like a child himself

Poor gc - he deserves a better grandfather role in his life

I hadn't realised until yesterday, that water left in a hose can also heat up in the sun. Please beware.

I think GS cried because he had a bit of a shock. GF went indoors because he was upset that he had upset his GS but didn't know how to deal with it. I would laugh it off with GF and just explain not to surprise the child but to ask him if he wants to play at whatever.

My Dad was ex military and a boxer, very much a 'man's man'. He loved us dearly and often played with us but had no idea what to do if one of us cried and he didn't understand why. If it was an obvious cut or we fell over we would get a cuddle and he would try to kiss it better. If it was something he couldn't see the reaction was more likely to be 'What are you crying for? Stop grizzling'. He was in general a very good Dad though.

Oh come on child abuse for playing with a child that didn’t like it and cried Newatthis Do you know what child abuse is ?

The 4 year old next door to me has been crying and screaming all afternoon because his older brother is hurting him in the rough and tumble of play

That would be a grandpa my kid wouldn't see unless he learns kids are kids
For crying out loud Hithere it was a play water fight the child probably got a bit over whelmed but he didn’t disappear in a puff of smoke he carried on playing with his grandad afterwards he just misjudged it slightly no harm done A big big overreaction

It is not about playing with water.

It is how grandpa seems very disconnected from the needs of a child and refuses responsibility on upsetting his gc.

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