To betray or stay quiet

I think Gagajo has the perfect solution.

Madgran has the OP told the parents? I've looked back through the posts and I haven't seen one telling us this. Can you point it to me please.
It sounds as though the deed is done and the grandmother has been shot down in flames because she no longer has the link (but I seem to have missed it).

I remember my own Gson at about that age being sent some video showing 2 'gay' men indulging in sex (apparently) but he was upset and went straight to his parents in tears.
He's now in his 20s and told me about it a short while ago - it now amuses him, but at the time he was quite traumatised.

Ooops - have I made a blunder in using the word gay? If so I apologise and give admin authority to remove it.

Exdancer OPs post 21.06 yesterday. Unless I have completely misunderstood. If I have, apologies OP; I still think the parents should be told

Madgran

I read the comments:

OP has a difficult relationships with son

Won't tell us what sort of video it is (doesn't need detail)

Doesn't have the video to forward

Son did not react well to her telling him which she predicted...

Gagajo had the right advice and most agreed, as do I

Except that he’s nine, not fifteen.

I agree with MerylStreep, IMO this is a dangerous situation and regardless of your relationship with your son you must take action. This issue is a closed book to most of us but as MS says this could become very nasty indeed! Your GS is only 9 years old!! I agree it is not necessary for samcav to describe what she has seen , we know it was highly inappropriate and that is all we need to know. Samcav I think you should tell your son what is happening with his little boy, don't be judgmental or pass an opinion - just give him the information. Your GS will forgive you and understand you had to speak to his parents for his own protection. Your relationship with your son is not good , you have nothing to loose. If son thinks you are interfering then let him , you will have the knowledge that you did took the correct action. Don't hesitate!

Maw
Even when there are controls they are so tech savvy they get round them.

Firstly deal with your grandson yourself. Make it quite clear your disgust and your disappointment then open a meaningful discussion.

Then convince him to tell his parents himself.

VioletSky

Madgran

I read the comments:

OP has a difficult relationships with son

Won't tell us what sort of video it is (doesn't need detail)

Doesn't have the video to forward

Son did not react well to her telling him which she predicted...

Gagajo had the right advice and most agreed, as do I

I haven't counted up who agreed with who, it's irrelevant. I don't agree, because he is nine years old. That trumps everything else. I'm astounded at those who ignore that fact, even if it is "teenage boys" stuff as Gagajo said.

Anyway, not going to get into a debate on it. I hope that the OP finds some posts and suggestions helpful and that her 9 year old grandson is supported appropriately.

Shelflife I agree! I'm so astounded by this thread and some of the responses in relation to a child of nine!

I know -it beggers belief ! Thank you Madgran.

So are some posters suggesting that the OP put her relationship with her son above the interests and welfare of her 9 year old GS, in case her adult son, father of this boy doesn't like what she has to say?

Unbelievable.

Madgran

She has already told her son and it hasn't gone well and he hasn't listened...

He has treated it like drama and ignored it

Obviously the explanation hasn't gotten the point across

VioletSky

Madgran

She has already told her son and it hasn't gone well and he hasn't listened...

He has treated it like drama and ignored it

Obviously the explanation hasn't gotten the point across

Yes I know!

My comments were referring to the fact that some posters appeared to be ignoring the fact that this is a 9 year old child. As I have said its up to the OPS son how he responds, its not the fault of the OP for telling him and her telling him is not therefore a "big mistake" as suggested by some posters!!

We do not know if the father already knew of the video and addressed with his son

Why are you talking to me not them then?

VioletSky

Why are you talking to me not them then?

To Madgran

Smileless2012

So are some posters suggesting that the OP put her relationship with her son above the interests and welfare of her 9 year old GS, in case her adult son, father of this boy doesn't like what she has to say?

Unbelievable.

Yes it IS unbelievable isn't it Smileless And somehow it is supposed to be the OP who is at fault, not the parents apparent response , from the information given, which is all we can go on!! Honestly I am SO astounded! 😳

Hithere

We do not know if the father already knew of the video and addressed with his son

No we don't! All we know is what we have been told! So .....

VioletSky

Why are you talking to me not them then?

I was responding to your comments! I have already responded to other posters!!

As I said though, no point debating it. I still hope the OP finds a way through and most of all I hope the 9 year old child gets supported appropriately

i think some people need to read up on child safety and the internet.
there seems to be a lack of awareness in some quarters.
and why would some express disgust/disappointment to the child ??

and why would some express disgust/disappointment to the child ??

Quite!!!

Quokka

Firstly deal with your grandson yourself. Make it quite clear your disgust and your disappointment then open a meaningful discussion.

Then convince him to tell his parents himself.

That’s just about the worst thing you you can do.
What better way to make a child curious.
You seem to have missed the point that this video was sent to him He was probably on a site chatting to his friends when a piece of slime purporting to be a child had his contacts.
Get real.

Get real 👍MerylStreep