We only live 10 mins drive from daughter & husband. They have 3 children - our grandchildren, ages 5, 8, 10.
We helped a lot until COVID hit. We are in our 70’s so had to be careful during that period until the crisis was over, & we’d been fully vaccinated. They’ve had Covid 3 times in all. Us twice- not from them I might add.
We feel we all missed out so much in that period- it broke our bond somehow. We’re sure the parents thought we were being stupid over it all ( & annoyed we couldn’t help them etc)
Yes, the children have got older & have a lot of after school activities and friend dates now so harder to fit us in.
However, SIL makes sure his family have regular visits and annual holidays together, with the children,
each year. They even seem reluctant to visit us at weekends now. If they come it seems to be for the minimum time & the atmosphere is not very relaxed. We feel SIL challenges nearly all of our opinions. We feel like the oldies who know nothing. We are feeling neglected, not valued & generally are being ignored unless they want “ free”babysitters for a night out or weekend away.
They hardly invite us to their house now unless it’s to pick up ironing or do watering when the6 are away.
I’ve sent them an invite for a lunch date today & no reply at all- even though I know they are on their phones constantly!
Anyone out there with advice? We’re feeling sad about the situation.
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