Cake situation!

Esmay

Don't let this situation turn into the cake wars !
I experienced some jealousy between my mother and mother in law .
But they got on .
Nothing prepared me for the cold shoulder that I've received from my daughter's mother in law .
My father thought that it was due to my winning a quiz and some games at her house .
He saw her face
I didn't .
Apparently she is used to being number one .
Not only did she move without telling me her new address ,I'm excluded from funerals , weddings , christenings and birthday parties .
I last saw her about four years ago and if looks could kill !

Just admire the shop bought cake.
Everyone will prefer your home made one .
And let it go ... before it becomes an issue .

Have already let it go.
This really has ceased to be an issue now.

eazybee

.... is probs true that she does feel jealous because her precious son married beneath him, and because he gets along so well with us. I any case will paint on a smile and be civil when I see her.

And let go of the massive chip on your shoulder.

Thanks.
Cheap dig noted.
Was there anything more constructive you wanted to say?

Franbern

Find it difficult to understand all this fuss about a cake for toddlers birthday. A CAKE!!!!! Talk about first world problems.

You have so much more uniting the two families than dividing you. A happy, loving partnership of your children, a healthy happy grandchild. The ability to be able to meet u[ regularly and often to share important dates.
Yet the two older 'ladies' seem to be in on-going battle as to whom is best!!!!
Think you both need to step back.

Have stepped back
This was really just me letting off steam not a major showdown.
There is no battle just two people who don’t always get along
Jeeez I suppose that mustn’t happen in other people’s families.

Oh Babs!
Our families are perfect!
I myself have a degree in telling fibs, and my grandson is showing signs of being similarly gifted.

MissAdventure

Oh Babs!
Our families are perfect!
I myself have a degree in telling fibs, and my grandson is showing signs of being similarly gifted.

😂

In the words of Frozen , let it go . Bite your lip and stick a smile on your face at your sil birthday.
I’d much rather a home made cake than a shop bought one

Franbern

Find it difficult to understand all this fuss about a cake for toddlers birthday. A CAKE!!!!! Talk about first world problems.

You have so much more uniting the two families than dividing you. A happy, loving partnership of your children, a healthy happy grandchild. The ability to be able to meet u[ regularly and often to share important dates.
Yet the two older 'ladies' seem to be in on-going battle as to whom is best!!!!
Think you both need to step back.

That seems unfair. OP said she make a cake and made it. She wasnt competing. It was MIL who created a competition and needs to step back!

Thing is I would never encourage a battle of the grans with my SILs mother , both my husband and I actively encourage a good relationship between our daughter and her Mil, sadly we have been estranged from our eldest daughter and two GCs so we know how heartbreaking it can be when a family member cuts a parent out of their lives.
So at our SILs birthday meal we will be all smiles and good will and probs have a great time cos she is only one person in a group of many.
That is if I can possibly ignore the chip on my shoulder, perhaps eazybee has some advice to give regarding this.

she is only one person in a group of many

Excellent!
Have a lovely time.