Grandchildren in their twenties

One of my DGds is a sixth former, the other is at university. LikeAllsorts , I have no idea what they enjoy.. I give each a small personal present and then money.

my 2 GC are teenagers,,,I usually ask what they'd like....now it's CD'S..and money in a xmas envelope to get what they like

One of my older grandchildren is neurodivergent. They have not been in employment and rely on benefits. The other older grandchild is in good work. I ve continued to give them the £x I gave when they hit 18, im sure it’s a good sum for one, less for the other. It’s appreciated and I’d rather they had cash than a gift they’d never use. I stress, im not miss money penny, but thst and a smaller birthday gift is now what I spend on them,

I have seven in their 20 s and yes they are the same grandchildren I had when they were 2, 10, 15 why would I change Most of them earn decent money they all work hard and have good career makes no difference to me I still wish to acknowledge my love of them in the same way evenif they all earn more than me, makes no difference 🤗

I’m the reverse with my seven. I give cash to older teens and students but when they leave university and start work I consider them adults and revert to presents, chosen on the advice of their parents.

Ours are 12 and 18, I have their Christmas wish lists so will choose from there, x checking with their Mum we’re not duplicating. Yes, we spend roughly the same, it depends what they’ve asked for.

JamesandJon33

One of my DGds is a sixth former, the other is at university. LikeAllsorts , I have no idea what they enjoy.. I give each a small personal present and then money.

We do the same as they're teenagers now and like to spend money after Christmas.
DGS is saving for a car.

I have three GC in their twenties, the other two are in their early thirties. All are working, I just give them money so they can get what ever they would like.
Same with my great grandchildren, I hardly see them as parent is busy.
I still love them as when they were babies and children, but it was easier then.

Ours are 15 and 18. I have alays asked all family members, regaardless of age to provide a wish list to guide present buying at Christmas. For their birthdays they get cash

I have three in their early twenties, I give them money, a top or something similar for the boys, and some girly bits and pieces for my granddaughter.
I have two in their teens, and I rely totally on their lists, as I would be certain to get it wrong, a boy of twelve where every present has to revolve around football, and joy, I have a seven year old granddaughter who I love buying for.

We have 9 ranging in age from 7 to 25. We give the 7 year old presents and ask the others what they would like. Some ask for money and some ask for vouchers. We buy them all a small personal present too. DGS3 (18) has a longish standing girlfriend so we buy her a small gift too.

(I will be passing round a hat as we get closer to the big day!!)

I have Grandchildren in their 20s and 30s with families of youngsters, I buy for the great grands and the 2 under 18 grandchildren. I couldn't afford to buy for all of them plus partners there are many so its the little ones who get pressies.

Christmas is easy - once they are 10 years old they become part of the family Secret Santa

Birthdays - I give a small gift and cash. The cash has gone up as they have got older. Once they are working then it’ll still be a small gift and cash as that seems to be the most useful, though probably by bank transfer as we’ll be lucky to still have the actual notes!

Yes I go by lists too or if they want money they usually tell me what they want it for, ones climbing a mountain soon so wants money for a new fleece, one wants holiday money, one is travelling so some money for the next leg, one took up golf this year so a lesson and some golf bits, I ve seven grandkids 5 girls two lads from nearly 20 to 28. I used to love buying toys for them when they were small but this is the best I can get to being excited over giving to them

Two of my grandchildren are in their twenties. I give them money or vouchers and then just some little gift to open.

I indulge mine but they are still young enough. I can't predict what I will do in the future- but I hope they will still want to see me at Christmas time!

In my family there is a long standing overall understanding that gifts to all but out own children and grandchildren once they are 21. But the 13 year old has always wanted money to spend on themselves and why not, if thats what they want.

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I indulge mine but they are still young enough. I can't predict what I will do in the future- but I hope they will still want to see me at Christmas time!

Well you've got a good point there...I dont imagine stopping gifts ☺️

I'll tell them their present is waiting at my house but they have to come see me to get it!

Well said Bluebelle - my GD was here earlier. She is 22 and has just started her first job and probably has more income than I have. I told her that and she smiled her usual sweet smile and I said “Nan will still give you the same amount as I’ve always done “
I have 6 GC , youngest being 7years old. They all get the same -
the little lads will get a couple of toys and some spending money for their winter holiday. The little girls are spending most of their money on clothes 😂

P.S. started this yesterday and got distracted

At the request of our daughter in law who has a large family we stopped buying major Christmas gifts for adults several years ago. We do rebel a bit in that each adult has a small treat food item.

In consultation with their parents we’ve agreed the same for the grandchildren. Once they are adult and working full time a token gift only. It will be a while as one is mid way through the first university year, another has just begun college and the third is not yet a teenager.

I found it odd at first but now it’s settled in me life is certainly easier and it means they get a more substantial gift for a birthday.

Incidentally Mr C and I no longer buy each other substantial gifts. A £10 limit for something to open on the day and a day out in December or January which is our gift to each other.

Each family has different traditions. They evolve as ours have. As long as everyone is happy that’s fine by me.

I give all mine cash and a small personal present, and will continue to do so. I’d have no idea what to buy, so they can do it themselves!

My eldest is 23 and earns good money, but all over the world, so he gets a little money, and if he is home, a small under the tree gift.

I felt that 18 was the cut off, but I did not see much of him growing up as his parents and grandparents did not celebrate Christmas and he was separated from my son. Also the other 3 are much younger, but last year 2nd dgs asked for money towards a much bigger item - he will get money this year.

DH is somewhat mean about money, so they have got used to smaller gifts than other grandparents give (mind you they offer holidays, bikes, games consoles etc)

My family always stopped giving presents at age 18 or 21 so the last present I received from my GP was at age 21. I still treasure it! My GC are still young but I expect I'll do the same. I save money for them in a kids bank account and I would intend for them to be given it at age 18 or at graduation if they go to university, if I'm still around then. At the moment I consult with the parents about gifts and as they get older that will be more necessary I'm sure. Once they are teenagers it will probably be cash. My mum gave us cash to spend on the children so we could get what they wanted and she saved money for my children too. They received their bank accounts when she died. Both were students at the time and my DD used hers to buy her first car when she graduated. My son left his in National savings and used it later when studying for his PhD.