Grandchildren in their twenties

Three grandsons. Two aged 18 and 20, they always get money by bank transfer.

The youngest, aged 10 always has a present chosen by d d who knows what he would like. So much easier for me.

I think as teenagers they appreciate money so they can use it how they want. The amount would be the equivalent of an actual item you’d give them. But once they’re adults and earning for themselves I wouldn’t give them anything. ( unless they’re genuinely struggling).

I have no understanding of stopping at a certain age they are still my same children and grandchildren whatever age they are I still give my children money or presents from their list they re still my children they don’t stop being my children and grandchildren when they are 18 that’s just sounds so alien to me All my children and all my grandchildren earn far more than me but that’s not the point at all

Don’t you buy anyone over 18 anything ??

We have secret Secret santa this deals with the older grandchildren

just imagine if the 3 wise men had taken money instead of gifts, and i bet you get old peoples slippers in return for your generous gifts whilst their mates get fancy goods. christmas has lost its meaning

I don't know what I should do. Three oldest grandchilren are in their 30s, well established in well paying jobs and much better off than I. They never contact me.
The youngest grandchild is mid 20s is highly qualified graduate, and is struggling to get employment. This is the only grandchild who keeps in touch with me.

Caleo

I don't know what I should do. Three oldest grandchilren are in their 30s, well established in well paying jobs and much better off than I. They never contact me.
The youngest grandchild is mid 20s is highly qualified graduate, and is struggling to get employment. This is the only grandchild who keeps in touch with me.

When they are young I think they should be treated equally but once grown up I'd be very much inclined to bear in mind how they treat you, especially if they are not siblings and are less likely to compare. Also be aware of their cicumstances. Both my children keep in touch with their elderly grandma even though they live at opposite ends of the country. My DD rings her regularly and both visit her when they are able to be in the vicinity. They see her more often than one of her sons who lives abroad and didn't even visit her the last time she was in the UK. She is currently looking into moving nearer my ex and if she does I'm sure my adult children will visit her more as they will visit their dad. I think it's very sad that GC often don't keep in touch with GPs when they are grown up and I'm glad my kids do. I hope I'll be as lucky with mine if I live long enough. I certainly kept in touch with my GP when I visited my mum as they lived fairly near her, although I lived 200 miles away.

My GC are aged between one and 21. They all have the same budget for presents for birthdays or Christmas. Some might get money some get toys but all to same value within a few pounds.

My 7 are aged between 14 and 27 they all get cash for Christmas, they get to a certain age and they tend to prefer cash, unless of course your budget runs to cars and suchlike.

I give a small present to open, then cash in a card for them to choose

I'm absolutely 💯 percent with Bluebelle. I can't understand the notion of not giving anything to your own child for Christmas. I love them as I have always done and couldn't think of prioritising grandchildren over my own children.

My children and grandchildren all get the same amount birthdays and Christmas whether it’s presents or money I can’t get my head around it being any different If they are earning £10 or £1000 a week makes no difference I love them the same and treat them the same and will till I die.
I dont have a lot I can’t buy them apartments or cars but I can treat them all as equals whether I see them every day or hardly ever they are still my flesh and blood and still loved

Quite BlueBelle

I will always give my children gifts or money for birthdays and Christmas, I prefer to surprise with gifts but its not practical when you are out of touch with what they like, so it will be a gift plus money as usual..

My 7 range from 19 to 8. It'll be money, not a vast amount, to spend in the sales or for driving lessons for the older ones. Maybe a tiny gift as well. The younger ones still get something to open on Christmas day. I'm knitting a jumper for the 10yr old.

We tend to give presents until the young adults are out at work.

Smaller gifts at Christmas, bigger ones at birthdays, for all ages and stages.

monami

just imagine if the 3 wise men had taken money instead of gifts, and i bet you get old peoples slippers in return for your generous gifts whilst their mates get fancy goods. christmas has lost its meaning

Not in this house monami 🎁
Agree BlueBelle ✅

monami

just imagine if the 3 wise men had taken money instead of gifts, and i bet you get old peoples slippers in return for your generous gifts whilst their mates get fancy goods. christmas has lost its meaning

Or brought a fluffy camel, a lucky sixpence and some zinc and caster oil cream.

I have 5 DGC . The youngest is 14 at the end of December, and gets presents up to £100 . Two DGS are 19 , and two DGD are 20. They all get £100. Next year youngest DGD will get money like the rest of them as she has a pony and there is always something equestrian to spend her money on . I’ll continue to give them money as long as I can afford . Two of my DGC live two hours away and I only see them a few times a year but despite that I know they love me as much as I love them . The rest of them I see a lot .