Someone's come for my dad.

ruby I am so sorry to hear your news and how things are going with your brother and sister. The time until you can start making the arrangements is hard, but I hope you and your son can find some quiet time together over the holiday weekend. All you can do is take one day at a time and try to look after yourself so that you can get through the weeks to come. My heart goes out to you and your son. Gentle {{{HUGS}}}

ruby sincere condolences on the loss of your father

grannyactivist and gilly and anyone else going through difficult times

?? thinking of those of you going through such a distressing time. Sad to hear about the loss of your Dad, Ruby, he isn't suffering any longer, you did your best for him . ??

Your dad is at peace now ruby and I'm sure that you helped to make his passing easier. Enjoy your son's company and rest until you can make plans.

gilly, I hope you have time off over Easter and can gather some strength for the coming sadness.

Ga, I was wondering how your mum is doing. I hope you feel better soon.

My mum is still with us too and seems to enjoy keeping us on our toes!

Ruby I am so sorry for your loss

ruby may your Dad rest in peace.

So sorry to hear your news ruby your dad is at peace and you know you did your best for him.
Look after yourself now and don't let others get to you and upset you.

ruby Condolences on the death of your dad, and it's good that he had a peaceful ending.
Look after yourself now.

Ruby what a sad time for you my dear

Families can be so hurtful at times. My sister who had a very bumpy relationship with my late mum is still making unnecessary comments about her 22 years later, so don't expect any improvement from your siblings.

Concentrate on yourself and be happy that you did your very best.

Ruby I am so sorry for your loss but he had a peaceful end and you did your very best for him. ??

ruby and everyone else .

My mother died 22 years ago on Good Friday (it was a different date, but I always remember it as being on Good Friday). I was only 45 and has so much to contend with at that time. You all seem to be doing such good jobs of looking after your parents at the end of their time.

ruby the day before my mother died, my father decided he wanted to say goodbye. They had not spoken in 20 years or more. (he had left her with 3 small children after barely 5 years of marriage, he was always having affairs). All he did in the room that day was sob, and my mother consoled him. When he left, still sobbing, she said "Nothing has changed, he was always a weak man". When I remember that it makes me - there she was as weak as a kitten with hours left to live.

Your dad's nickname, what a smashing one for a welder.

I am so sorry to hear about your dad ruby but he is at peace now and you can start remembering how he was in his prime . Enjoy your Easter with your son knowing that you did all you could (hugs)

ruby So sorry to hear your news and especially about the behaviour of your relatives Just try to concentrate your thoughts on your Black Prince and you. What you had was special and they can't spoil that.

Take care Ruby and look after yourself. You have done the best you could for your Dad.

Condolences, Ruby, and take care of yourself. Don't let the relatives make you ill, they are not worth it.

Ruby

I have been doing a bedside vigil since last Friday but somehow , Lord knows how, we are hoping we are in a better place today. Your post on Tuesday made me feel so sad but for some reason I could not comment or offer support , so sorry, how strange we are at times.

You sound as though you shared a very loving relationship with your dad and this will be such a difficult time for you . There is no brave face that can put on is there, your heart is breaking and the depth of love you had for him I think can be felt by us all. It must be comforting for you to know it was pain free and peaceful and that will help you in time too. The days ahead will throw some challenges in your direction no doubt so please accept a virtual hug from me .

Send you a (((hug))) too POGS. Hope things have improved for you.

rubylady

rubylady, all my best wishes for the strength to organise your dad's funeral and to cope with the grief. I'm glad for his sake and yours that he died peacefully

Ruby so sorry for your loss but so glad that it was peaceful and pain free for your dad.
Good to vent on here where it is safe to do it! Try not to say anything to family that you will later regret as you are clearly and most naturally in a very emotional state just now. You never know but your siblings may try to change and be more supportive hopefully. It is a big awakener when your parents die and suddenly you are the senior generation because so much changes and your own mortality become so much more apparent.
Try to have a relaxing weekend anyway. ((hugs))

for POGS and Annsixty and Grannyactivist and gilly as well as others also going through difficult times. and and ((hugs))
Wish we could all help in RL

ruby so sorry for your loss {{{hug}}}

ruby .