Daughter has breast cancer

silverlining48 there is no "usual". Each case is individual.

You will be able to cope and support your daughter through this. She is in good hands in the German medical system and they will move fast to take whatever action is necessary. So glad that you will be with her soon.

Silverlining I know you are going to be strong and positive for your daughter.
They may be "sampling" some lymph nodes, to just check them for any cancer cells. If that's what it is, it's not major - a few armpit stitches.
Your daughter is young and strong which is a big help. Always amazes me the amount of cancer treatment that some really old people are given.
Hope journey goes well.

Have a safe journey - I am sure you will feel better when you are with her. Let us know how it goes.

silver You will cope because you must, and all our good wishes and positive thoughts will go with you.
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Silver what awful news, i am sure you will feel much better when you can give your DD a hug, look after yourself

My dear silver lining, I cant add anything to the excellent advice you've already had from the other ladies here. You will probably have arrived by now in Berlin, and with your daughter. I think things are always worse in our heads than in reality and actually seeing your daughter and being able to hug her ( gently) will help you both immensely . Sending a gentle hug to you too. God Bless you . You are coping amazingly well and have my utmost admiration and respect.

Safe travels, you've had a worrying few weeks and will be glad to see for yourself how your daughter is. I hope that will reassure you about the treatment that she's receiving. Be strong for your daughter but be kind to yourself too. Thinking of you

silver a virtual army of us are travelling with you

I wish your daughter will be fine soon.

Hi Silverlining, I am so very sorry to hear about your daughter and understand your worry. I was diagnosed with BC last year and had an operation to remove the lump, followed by four weeks of radiotherapy. I was very positive all the way through it as I have so many friends who have also had BC and survived. I told my Mum and my Hubby not to worry about it as it was very treatable and I remained very positive all through the treatment. I am sure that your Daughter is feeling the same way. My Nurse told me that being positive was a very good thing. I have been told that the lump was very small and low risk, it has gone and there is no reason why I should not carry on leading a healthy life. Please be positive and cheerful with her, I am certain that she will get the best treatment available and she will be just fine.

wish you and your daughter all the best

Hello again. Thank you all for your support. Its been a difficult and worrying time, and we are back to germany next week to visit. Chemo has started now and our daughter will need a 4 th operation to try to clear a healthy margin of tissue. We werent expecting it, one or perhaps two is usual, but we are still trying to keep positive. She hs had a few other problems with things rekated, ut is being very brave and we must be brave for and with her. Not always easy.

Within a couple of weeks of hearing the news about our daughter my husband has been diagnosed with prostate cancer and skin cancer.

Its been really hard.

Lucycakeface, so pleased things worked for you.

What a lot you're having to cope with all at the same time. I can understand that it's hard to keep positive when so much in your life feels uncertain just now. It sounds like your daughter's doctors are trying to avoid any recurrence in her cancer and you can only take her lead in adopting her positive outlook. Hope things go well for your husband too, how is he coping with all that's going on? Thinking of you as you face these new challenges

Great that they have discovered that she has it so can now start treatment. How much more awful would it be if she did not know and the disease was spreading unchecked. I try to maintain that attitude because today, by catching cancer early, so many people beat the terrible disease. In the past it was only a matter of time before the cancer took it's toll. Now the prognosis with an early diagnosis is good.
My heart goes out to you and your daughter, it is not going to be easy but the eventual outlook is hopeful.

silverlining you must be so worried. DH has just been given the same diagnosis and I know how gut wrenching it is

Silverlining48 it was lovely to meet you last week. I hope things go well for your daughter and husband. Lots of positive thoughts coming your way xx

Thank you for your very kind words silverlining. I am so sorry that your Hubby is ill too. How dreadful for you. But please try and stay positive for both of them. I always remember when a work colleague had Cancer about 16 years back. His wife told me that everybody felt so bad for him but didn't realise how she was suffering. Please keep us updated and by the way my work colleague is a survivor too! Never give up hope. xx

harrigran you have been through so much too. Positive vibes to DHs and DDs and all family members for whom we worry.