I'm 70 next February. I'm my DH's carer (he's ten years older than me, disabled with spinal stenosis and in a wheelchair) and we are very happy, although I do get tired and perhaps have "let myself go" over the last few years.
My DD got married at the weekend in London; I drove up on Friday and we stayed two nights at a lovely hotel. DD helped me choose an outfit and I thought my DH and I looked pretty good!
However, my ex's family were all in attendance (inc. my ex) and they are all without fail slim and stylish and "don't look their age"; ex-SIL (who is my age) wore an off the shoulder gypsy dress, the other SIL wore lip liner and heaps of make up, they both still have waists and it reminded me why I never really liked my ex's family as it was always a competition to be the most thin; my late ex MIL always thought that thinliness was next to godliness! I hadn't seen them for at least 8 years and when they greeted me in turn, there was no smile although there were hugs and kisses. They all looked thoroughly miserable and I wondered if I was at a funeral!
However, I got on with enjoying the occasion and it was absolutely wonderful. DD looked beautiful and her new DH is a delightful man. But seeing the photos my DH took of me, I look exactly as the title of this thread. I said as much to DH and he said "well, do something about it!" It made me think that perhaps my ex in laws were shocked at how much I'd changed although I hadn't noticed too much as I was busy enjoying life and being married (it was our first wedding anniversary last month).
This has upset me more than it should, I know. Perhaps DH is right, but I am so busy and have the garden and house to look after as well as him. I know I should exercise more (I have a bowel problem which stops me doing very much) and I shouldn't eat ice cream or drink wine, and I think if I put my mind to it I could lose weight (I'm size 18, so not that big, but I do have a fat tummy).
I was feeling really comfortable and happy with life, but now I feel quite miserable.
Sorry; just needed to have a moan. On with the garden now!
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