Dealing with constant health problems

Lookup healthunlocked ,lots of help I could not have servived my illness without the forum .

To all those who are struggling with health issues, these flowers are for you -
And here was I, just speaking to my friend and complaining about my knee pain. I should be ashamed of myself.

So nice to know I am not alone, I was just this minute thinking of how fed up I am with always being ill. I have just had to phone in sick, yet again. I only went back to work last week after a fortnight off with a chest infection & fractured wrist. I was admitted to hospital last Friday with an acute asthma attack, it’s just like 1 thing after another. I also have a heart problem, had shingles a few years ago, broke my ankle & last year was diagnosed with diverticulitis. I’m sure i’m going to get the sack soon.

Lots of lovely supportive messages thank you.
I don't post on GN much - I'm not a gran but I do have adult DC of 21 and 23. Young enough for me to feel I don't want them to know what's going on at the moment.

To be fair to DH he hasn't said anything but I try to avoid moaning.
If people ask me how I am I say fine as nobody really wants to hear how you really are.
^^ This.
It's true as well, we've all met that person who talks endlessly about their ailments.

I will look out for some support groups and once I get a diagnosis on the lung problem I shall manage to process it as I have the other things.

Perhaps we need an ongoing "Moan here about your health" thread.

Had a lovely day today as DS visited, we went out and I was distracted from worrying for much of the day.

Redridinghood so pleased you could be distracted. I find that is the best policy. I am hoping I will be able to do this for a long time to come.

I guess I'm fairly lucky compared to some. to all those that have daily struggles.

Hi Red. Not a Gran either but DS 23 and living at home. I find age group here kinder and more tolerant than Mumsnet (Well, mostly..!)
I'm on Health Unlocked. Check it out. Many forums and so much info from other sufferers

Oops. Saw Olive already mentioned Health Unlocked

I have suffered with RA since I was 24. Also now have polymyalgia rheumatica. One thing to understand about RA is that is does not only attack your joints but can cause all sorts of other problems. I am sure, RedRidingHood ,that your itchy rash is RA-related as I have experienced the same problem on and off over the years. It is difficult to feel positive all the time but I tell myself that my overactive immune system protects me from other things!

Hi Brigidsdaughter Yes MN can be a bit brutal. Will check out that Health Unlocked.

Lindajoy Do you know I suspected a connection between RA and rash. I've had it on and off for a couple of years but this particular time it started around November when I had a big flare of RA. RA is now fine, joints all fine but the rash persists. GP doesn't know and has referred me to Dermatology. I will definitely ask Rheumatologist next time I see him.
^ my overactive immune system protects me from other things!^ Does it? What do you think?

I have just been on healthunlocked and what a mistake. Everyone there with similar problems to me was terminal. It was no help at all and made me very depressed.

I sympathise! I juggle psoriasis, psoriatic Arthritis, depression , and now possibly a stomach ulcer from arthritis drugs. Husband wonders why “ you’re always so poorly?” I said possibly because I have work, look after small DGS and am career for 93 mother with dementia, while you are retired, only spend time bowling and playing cards and wouldn’t recognise stress if it belted you round the chops! Think he saw my point!

I have just been on healthunlocked and what a mistake. Everyone there with similar problems to me was terminal. It was no help at all and made me very depressed.

dragonfly I found I had to be very selective and protect myself against depressing items, whether in the media or wherever, to stop being pulled down. And sometimes people can be very odd. The week I came out of hospital after having a mastectomy, a woman I barely knew who was a friend of a neighbour and I had only met once, took the trouble to drive 5 or 6 miles to knock on my door specifically to tell me that her cousin had just died of breast cancer. How cruel was that? And how utterly pointless. I couldn't understand what she got out of doing that.

So be kind to yourself, don't read or watch anything you think might upset you .... there is always someone worse off and while going through a bad time yourself, it won't help to know about them. I know it's hard to stay positive but try to spend time with people who make you feel loved, and try to do things that give you pleasure because, as you said yourself in an earlier post, distraction is a good thing. for you.

I agree with pinkquartz. Those illnesses are not your own choice. People around you should be more sympathetic, especially your DH and also children. Glad to hear that you share this story here. You have all my sympathy.

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