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OH now on end-of-life care.

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Luckygirl Fri 24-Jan-20 17:10:07

OH in nursing hone with end-stage PD, and he has been in terrible mental stress with paranoia on top of his total physical helplessness. He shot a temperature yesterday and clearly has some sort of infection - probably chest. I opted for him not to go to hospital, as I know this is what he wants. They are trying (and failing) to get oral antibiotics down, and have scratched all meds non-essential for his comfort . We just want him to go in peace now. But he is intermittently awake and in distress that he cannot articulate. They have all the necessary drugs for palliative care.

I am torn between wanting to keep him and wanting him to just go now so his distress is over. It is a torment

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dustyangel Sun 02-Feb-20 17:10:52

Please accept my sincere condolences Lucky. flowers

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Willow500 Sun 02-Feb-20 17:25:34

I'm so sorry Lucky that you have lost the man he was but relieved for you that he is now at peace. Time to take care of yourself now flowers

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Thorntrees Sun 02-Feb-20 17:36:29

Adding my love and sympathy to all the others.flowers

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Maggiemaybe Sun 02-Feb-20 17:43:20

My sincere condolences, Luckygirl. flowers

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Jane10 Sun 02-Feb-20 17:46:54

Oh Luckygirl. That's all I can say.
Oh.

I'm thinking of you and your girls. ? ?? ☕ ?

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PageTurner Sun 02-Feb-20 17:49:39

Luckygirl
Thinking of you and your family at this very sad time.
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NanTheWiser Sun 02-Feb-20 18:09:16

Deepest condolences, Lucky ???

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rosecarmel Sun 02-Feb-20 18:12:45

No more suffering .. but through it he knew he was loved by you and you him .. and it's that shared love that will lead your heart back to the memories of the man he was before his suffering began ..

Wishing you peace ..

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GranEd Sun 02-Feb-20 18:16:11

Sincere condolences Luckygirl ?

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Grammaretto Sun 02-Feb-20 18:19:46

Sending you my heartfelt sympathy. It is the end of a long struggle.
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Mapleleaf Sun 02-Feb-20 18:22:44

Sincere condolences, Luckygirl. ?

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KatyK Sun 02-Feb-20 18:26:29

So sorry flowers

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conor Sun 02-Feb-20 18:27:17

So sorryflowersxxx

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Greeneyedgirl Sun 02-Feb-20 18:29:52

You must be exhausted and in shock from the last few weeks.
Big hugs to you all.

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Daddima Sun 02-Feb-20 18:30:50

Sincere condolences to you and yours, and a happy rising to Mr Lucky. x

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MiniMoon Sun 02-Feb-20 18:44:24

I am so sorry to hear this news Luckygirl.
Your DH is now free from the restrictions of PD and has found peace.
My love to you and your daughters at this sad time.

Why should I be out of your mind because I am out of your sight?

I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near just around the corner.
All is well.

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Nannytopsy Sun 02-Feb-20 18:47:13

So sorry ?. We had that mixture of sadness and relief with our parents x

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Baggs Sun 02-Feb-20 18:59:49

Sincere condolences, lucky. May he rest in peace. And may you rest too as much as you can flowers

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brook2704 Sun 02-Feb-20 19:50:28

So sorry for your loss - deepest condolences ?

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Luckygirl Sun 02-Feb-20 19:54:57

So many kind words from so many directions today and they have helped sustain me - although I have howled and wept as well. Maybe I have to go there first before some sense of peace comes.

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Marmight Sun 02-Feb-20 20:00:38

Lucky. Thinking of you and sending love. He’s at peace at last.
Take very good care of yourself, accept help and take every day as it comes.

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purplepatch Sun 02-Feb-20 20:18:45

Sincere condolences Luckygirl. Those of us who have passed this way know that no words can console you right now. Thinking of you flowers

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Iam64 Sun 02-Feb-20 20:36:13

Sincere condolences to you Lucky and to your daughters xxx
He is at peace after such a long period of sadness for all of you. No words can express other than to say thinking of you sending love xx

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bikergran Sun 02-Feb-20 20:58:13

Your lovely dh is now at peace,no more suffering.

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gillybob Sun 02-Feb-20 21:15:12

Just caught up with the news that your DH has passed away after much suffering (for your both) Luckygirl I am so sorry. xx

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