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Anxiety re street party

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Willow73 Sat 22-Apr-23 13:55:52

I moved to our street a year ago. They all know each other as they have young children. We are having a street party and they have said bring your own food. For my husband and me that will be a sandwich and cake! I don’t find it easy to socialise at the best of times and have started having anxiety problems over this. Any advice is welcome and does anyone else feel like me?

Willow73 Sun 07-May-23 12:12:32

It’s from 2pm this afternoon. Think we have planned or day so we appear for an hour! Let you know how it goes. Thank you all for being there.

karmalady Sun 07-May-23 13:25:46

I read through this thread last night, also feeling anxious as it is so difficult being solo in a small crowd of couples and children. 15 minutes to spare last night and I jumped in the car, to the local co-op, found a beautiful thorners chocolate cake and now it is cut up and packed ready to take. Just that simple act of getting the cake was enough to take the anxiety away, so thank you for the suggestions. I do know everyone btw

I know fine well that I can hop from couple to couple and soon after will be able to quietly slip away to home. If I am spotted then they will just think that I need the loo and will forget about me. I am leaving my house at 2

Thinking of you willow

LRavenscroft Sun 07-May-23 14:29:20

And here's a real cop out! We are having a street party outside my window and when I looked at all the people seated there, I just could not face an afternoon with them. We are off instead to a local tea room for afternoon tea and a nice walk in the countryside. I just can't face the small talk. Terrible, I know but I do need some exercise so the walk will do me good and the yummy home made cakes are a distraction.

karmalady Sun 07-May-23 17:11:10

I don`t blame you LR. I have just come home, left them to it. Very nice group and I did get some good conversation going but it was all I could do to stop me obviously checking my watch. Sneaking out was impossible as everyone was in a circular space. Yes I am glad I went, have to be glad because I was asked but small talk is so hard at times. I must have been internally tense as I have a teeny headache now. I am glad it is over, for me

Willow73 Sun 07-May-23 17:25:16

Hi everyone, before I wrote this thread I thought I was the only person who felt like this, now I’m aware of just how many do I’m not happy because I feel for you all but relieved that I’m not alone.
We went and lasted 1hour, talked to lovely people and some ignored me but I did it!
Next will be the Christmas get together when panic starts again !

varian Sun 07-May-23 17:32:38

Our village with a population of about 100 has 78 people signed up for the coronation lunch tomorrow.

We have lived here for a long time so will know nearly everyone but will be glad to meet any newcomers.

If I was a newcomer I'd be really looking forward to meeting everyone.

Norah Sun 07-May-23 17:36:03

Willow73

Hi everyone, before I wrote this thread I thought I was the only person who felt like this, now I’m aware of just how many do I’m not happy because I feel for you all but relieved that I’m not alone.
We went and lasted 1hour, talked to lovely people and some ignored me but I did it!
Next will be the Christmas get together when panic starts again !

Well done you.

We, too, dislike small talk, people we don't know - but yesterday we persevered, worked our socks off, done and dusted.

Caramme Sun 07-May-23 18:35:19

Well done Willow73. I’d be just as apprehensive but luckily for me nothing like that has ever been planned here.

Blossoming Mon 08-May-23 19:28:14

Well done Willow