Transitioning loved one

At least the young person is in early 20s, and not a teenager.
When my nephew asked to transition (male to female)- he was 17. Family, doctors, friends, all tried to stop him and tell him to wait. He just said that if he wasn't helped to achieve what he wanted, he would kill himself. After 2 suicide attempts, one that almost succeede- they had to agree.

The good thing is, 12 years hence- that doing it so young means he never had time to develop male features, voice, Adam's Apple, etc. Now married to a lovely many- you could never ever guess, unless you knew, that she was born male. And very happy, in female profession, without any issues.

Primrose your comments really are a generalisation, which only actually is part of a small minority.
The very first (to my knowledge) transitioned male to female I met was some 14 years ago, when I went to a retired organisation day out in London. There were about 20 of us there, mainly women, but also two or three men. It was a cold, grey October day, and every one of the women turned up in trousers - except one lady, who wore a mid calf length brown skirt, pretty blouse and brown cardigan, tights and flat brown shoes. This was someone who had fully transitioned from man to woman several years earlier. She was very pleasant and did not mind talking about this, and also about the many pills she had to take daily and how difficult so much of her life still was. She had remained living with her wife and son.

I personally know two trans women, who have fully transitioned. Both knew as teenagers that they were in the wrong body , their words , not mine . Both went through hell and hid their pain and unhappiness with drugs and alcohol. One tried to castrate himself when he was a man . Both are now very happy and have male partners . One I work with and the other is a hcp . And Primrose both dress very casually in jeans or leggings . I think you’re confusing trans women with transvestites .

Claremont, thank you for that about the suicide risk when perceived need to transition is belittled by others

Tenko, my transitioned relative behaves as trivially as I suppose a transvestite behaves and yet she insists she is a transperson. This puzzles me very much .I try my best to fit in with her own identification as a transwoman but I always have this doubt about her sincerity.
I don't enjoy doubting her motives.

My husband's nephew is transitioning from a hairy bearded goth into a female with a very pretty name. His father is particularly uptight & judgemental but quite wonderfully he is being very supportive & understanding.
It must be awful to be trapped in the wrong body.
Growing -up there was a boy who used to skip & knit with us who was clearly more a She than a He!
As long as trans- things are not relentlessly forced down our throats via the media we will just evole to accept them, as with the struggle of gay men in day's gone by. 🤔

My DD had a long-term boyfriend (they became engaged) whose father transitioned in his early 60s. He had planned to do this 20 years earlier when his youngest child (he had five) started school but his wife developed a serious debilitating illness and he stayed until she sadly died a horrific death. He had written to all his family telling them of his intention but only the one child (my DD's fiance) supported him, which I suspect was due to the influence of my DD who said she was not at all surprised. He went through all the medical amendments (I don't know the detail) and ten years on is very happy. I believe that he, and two of his children, were/are on the autistic spectrum. My DD is still friends with her ex and his dad, though now happily married to another man.

What a lovely story Madmeg, a tale of bravery & determination.
It must awful to live in the wrong body. 👩🧑👨‍🦲👨‍🦳👩👩‍🦰🧔🧛🧝‍♀️💗

I am not sure- as it is impossible to imagine how one would feel, But I think, that perhaps I would have found it easier if a long time partner told me he wanted to transition, than if he'd had affairs with other men.

(I am glad I'll never know as I was very very lucky to find the man of my life 55 years ago.).

If my husband had told me he was going to become a woman I'd expect her still to make love to me. Why ever not!