I hate being 60

StripeyGran

There are those who's cup has had big holes drilled in the bottom too.

I've known people who have had the most awful holes drilled in the bottom of their cups but somehow they came through it and managed to embrace what was still good in life.

That's perhaps what being a cup half full person means?

Thankyou so much to all you posters, just the tonic I need.
I think my mindset needs a reboot and to stop putting so much pressure on myself.
I guess I feel sad as I am very young at heart, and feel I no longer belong in that world ( of the younger ones ) and have to carve myself out a life with the older ones.
But, so many people don’t have the privilege of living to 60 and beyond, so we are still here and need to enjoy what we have😊

❤️

Thanks, fancythat. We are waiting for something, I suppose.
But it's best not to dwell on it but just try to get the best out of every day we have left. I never thought I would live this long after retirement, so I regard it as a bonus.
Well, yes, GN is mainly for older people, although any age is welcome. Other sites are available, but to me GN is the best.
Like I said, you do get used to it. I fully accepted ages ago that
I am old. I think we fight against it at first.

Thanks tsm for starting this thread but also to others.
Life is not a competition not even with yourself, but we get judged and we judge others.

We are constantly asked our age and put in categories accordingly. Everytime I fill in a form or join a website or give a review there's that box to fill in.

Have you noticed when there's a report of a crime, the first, and sometimes only, thing we are told is the victim's age.
It's only right that we shouldn't know the gender, nationality, height, colour in these sensitive times but we can't hide age.

Better than the alternative.

Well said 🫶

Not quite sure what you think “the younger ones” are doing that you can’t do at 60.

You can do all that they are doing and more because you have the freedom now from having to go to work 👏

I cried the day I woke on my 60th no idea why just felt it's all over now.. m I am now 80 and bless each day I wake up and all is working ..aches pains bad knees heart tablets..but I am still here able to see my great grandchildren arrive.my mum died at 62 so I bless each day 🙏 I am here ...enjoy what you can.

I went to work as usual on my 60th birthday. DH picked me up & we went out for a meal. Got home about 8pm, there were assembled family & friends including my son who had flown in from America. My friend had picked him up from the airport & concealed him at her house. I was the only person who didn’t know he was coming home 😍
The best day ever with many many more to follow.

I think your Mum having dementia is an incredibly sad thing. It is so random and nine of us know who may get this disease. I hope she receive help and support.

janeainsworth

I went to work as usual on my 60th birthday. DH picked me up & we went out for a meal. Got home about 8pm, there were assembled family & friends including my son who had flown in from America. My friend had picked him up from the airport & concealed him at her house. I was the only person who didn’t know he was coming home 😍
The best day ever with many many more to follow.

Oh that is so nice.

When I was 60 I didn't feel old at all. I carried on as usual and enjoyed 2 grandsons, moved house, did it up and enjoyed life in general. I live a simple, quiet life full of my interests and very content with it.

Now I'll be 77 next birthday. Still doing ok and with 2 more Grandchildren! Doing well and so grateful for my health. Friends have health problems and that makes me realise how we must make the most of every day.

So enjoy the next 20-30+ years you have. There is so much to do and experience that it's up to you to motivate yourself and find new interests which you can do on your own/making new friends. If your partner chooses to appreciate life and peace at home that's his choice and nothing wrong with that, Fulfil yourself.

I'm off to visit a friend in a nursing home now, who is the same age as me. She would love to be even able to walk outside and to sit in a garden would be bliss for her. Makes you think....

Just be grateful you have reached 60 thousands don't and also that you are comfortably off.

It's not as bad as being 80.

I’m not sure why men retire and then just feel content doing nothing (low testosterone?). It’s an issue with my husband and with so many of my friend’s partners. Maybe you can talk him into having a full blood panel, including hormones.

I think it’s also natural to look at the end of life as we pass those milestone birthdays. With your mum aging and experiencing dementia, it probably exacerbates your thoughts and concerns.

Maybe you can shift your thinking to “I have a good 20 years left with so few responsibilities. I can do whatever I feel like doing today.” A friend advised me to list things I would like to do and places I would like to go, and do them. She said, “If your partner doesn’t want to go, go alone or take a friend. Don’t give up on living just because your partner is content sitting around.” I followed her advice and feel so much better!

I can understand why you aren't happy if your DH doesn't want to do anything, maybe he'll get over it if he sees you going out and enjoying yourself. If you want to travel and your DH doesn't, go on your own. Over the years I have been on several Jules Verne type holidays and met people travelling on their own because their OH isn't interested. There are also solo holidays which aren't geared up to any kind of 'match making'.

Lathyrus3 Wed 15-Oct-25 12:39:12
At 60 I was travelling around the world. Don’t let these years of no work and good health go to waste in wishing things were different.

If you’re husband doesn’t want to do stuff, think about what you want to do and do it! It’s up to you to make your life what you want. 🙂

Very wise and very true.

Having time and good health are treasures above rubies. I didn't retire from a job I adored, yet found stressful until I was 69. I'm now 75, DH is 77. Having faced heart issues and being now a new woman following surgery, and DH having survived an aneurysm, we seized the day together and are at present travelling around the world for a couple of months. We are in Malta just now, DH reliving his glory days of the Royal Navy, while I plan my 6th book since I retired. Life is fantastic, despite being all to aware that we lack the resilience of our last visit here, 12 years ago. We're having 16 for Christmas lunch chez nous, all in the planning just now. Trouble is, there's so much to do and so little time to do it...I have at least 20 years' worth of research to do for the next 3 books, at least 2 more languages to learn, 9 grandchildren to keep up with, a huge garden and orchard to maintain...find your passion while you are still young and go for it. One thing often leads to another if you are prepared to let life lead you where it will.

I went to university for the first time when I was 60 and absolutely loved it,ending up with an MA at age 70. I'd left school at 15 so it was wonderful to get a place with the Open University with no qualifications whatsoever.

TOO...all TOO aware...d'oh

Experienced husband suddenly becoming tetraplegic as I turned 65
Now 70 I’ve just lost him and had no idea I’d feel so lost.
I’d love to call him up and have a chat or be able to squeeze his hand.
Now doing all the practicals after the wake I feel 100!
I loved my 60th
The first 5 yrs were great and I’d found my y niche volunteering
Now I’m fit for nothing.
Please value what you have. I’m trying to remember that I’m not tetraplegic and have some kind friends.

Being 60 is much better than the alternative 🤷🏼‍♀️

If you’re a healthy 60 you will probably live into your 80s. That’s a long time to be feeling near the end of your life. Pull your socks up, get out and enjoy your retirement. Leave your husband at home with a list of what needs doing.

You probably have another 35 years at least nowadays to look forward to, make it count, reinvent yourself, join a club, new hobby, new friendships, the world's your oyster, and its ok to stop and chill for a while too, whenever I feel down I take a walk in the woods, trees are amazing to me, the quiet, the colours,
I'm in my 70s with all the usual health stuff but I have loads of time left, I change my hairstyle I buy a new clothes item, I look forward to seeing my friends for coffee and a chat, I am about to join a new booklet, I'm a great grandmother and I enjoy it.
Life's a gift

I wish I was still 60 🤣🤣