"Popping in" on someone without notice.

HATE IT!

I can`t stand people popping in,that`s the only positive thing that came out of covid imo.
I always arrange with family and friends in advance before popping in and they do the same.

A definite no for me, wfhome, busy and just doing my own thing. All visits arranged except summertime when I' m often in the garden and mind lesss

Here in Wales as a child, the house was open to callers, all the time. I found it interesting and lively. We lived near the church, so relatives on their way to and from that would pop in. As a child I could exit quietly a room if it wasn’t an interesting visitor. Wonderful working class friendliness.

I prefer to plan a visit, but during lockdown, very local friends would knock my living room window, and I would have a long lovely chat that way.

Looking back, I love the business of my childhood but now like the peace and quiet of my own home, alone.

Funnily enough I just had a visitor from a family member who I am very fond of, who popped in on the offchance I was home. I was delighted to see her.

Popping in or popping out No No No

Everyone knew my mother was terminally ill but neighbours would shout through her bedroom window ( the bungalow was 50 yards from the road) 'Just popping in to see how you are, Mrs H' ,Funny that no-one popped in to see if they could help when she could not get out of bed and had advertised for a cleaner/ anyone to help. The church at which both parents had been heavily involved was conspicuous by its non-representation. I never saw my father when he was home, as he was so often doing repairs etc for the various old ladies of the congregation who called upon him. A friend said' Oh isn't your father lovely Will you swap him for mine' ' I don't know because I never see him' I answered
I have an auto-immune condition and my energy is easily sapped. Some days I cannot move from my chair. The very term 'pop-in' I find somewhat offensive under these circumstances when people have actually waited for a cup of tea and a sandwich. We DO have a phone of the land-line sort so please try to find out if we feel fit

The other 'popping-in' I cannot abide is that where a local shop does not have the item in stock......'Just pop in' this afternoon We may have one then. This consists of a 20 minute drive each way, finding a parking space and then queueing up to see if the said item has arrived

'The past is another country' where the grocer's boy would arrive on his bicycle the same day to deliver the missing item

.... also. although a grandmother, I feel somewhat old for this group

Nobody pops here! My DScpart her will text/call first to see if I'm in? But never arrives expecting to come in and me stop everything to gasbag!

I have never minded people just popping in, but as a young adult I perfected polite ways of telling them that I had only time for a short chat, if I was busy.

If the hint wasn't taken I made it quite plain that lovely as it was to see them, I would have to ask them to leave, as I had to finish practising (professional singer in those days) before people in the building came home from work.

So I still politely tell people they have come at an inconvenient time, if that is the case, and suggest when I will be delighted to see them.

As a child always liked it when someone "popped in" usually biscuits appearing. Sunday after lunch would be a favourite day for whole family visiting prior arranged of course. Sandwiches, cake and tea for all of course. Later as an adult still enjoyed when someone dropped in unexpectedly. Then all changed with protocols having to be observed if wanting to visit anyone. Of course friends and family nowadays live far and wide so more likely to arrange a visit. People say everyone is so busy nowadays to have unexpected visitors. Goodness knows what folk did with their time 60 years ago, just sat about with nothing to do. My parents got the wrong end of the deal, Mum had 3 jobs, 1 early morning two in the evening, Dad was a miner worked shifts until he broke his back in a mine collapse. Four children for them to cater for, how did they cope with unexpected visitors or any visitors I'll never know.

# DS PARTNER!!!!! fFs.

Widgeon
You could always phone the shop to see if the item is now in stock.

DD lives a 5 minute walk away. We both live in flats, we both have each other's keys. We ring/text first, and give an eta.

The problem with quick texts asking if someone can pop in is I don’t have my phone attached to my hip 24/7 so it could be hours before I decide to check it and I also don’t race to answer the phone if I am in another room. People who know me understand this and they know they are welcome to call by and see if we are home.

I don't mind certain people calling in here, doesn't happen that much as we are so in the sticks. I prefer a phone call or email and usually do the same. I only call in with very few people who I know well.

I didn't welcome anyone in lockdown. One idiot local who was a covid denier and vaccine refuser called in a few times, he only ever did it when he wanted something. Stopped after getting the rough edge of my tongue which would apply covid or not!

When I lived in the UK I worked from home in a very sociable village. I was forced to put a notice on the door stating who could knock in working hours unless it's an emergency. Otherwise telephone.

The postman once asked my line manager why she was special!!

Hate ‘dropper inners’ and would never just drop in on anyone unannounced.

Well I love it, you can all pop in any time and drinks will be made

We don't have any 'friend' who lives close enough to just pop in...

Just remembered, my Gran always left her side door open, and if she wanted company would wash the floor. She swore some one would visit if the floor was wet.

On the other side of the family, we had an aunt and uncle who would phone at 1.30 to say they'd becoming for tea at 2.15. Mum used Sunday to wash for 6, cook a roast and pudding for 6, dry, iron laundry and make a tea. We all had to dash round, tidying up and making cakes, biscuits etc...and they stayed for hours. Their excuse, well we've driven 25 miles, we were very hard up, but at least twice z month from Spring to Autumn e had to feed 3/4 extra bodies

Quick text first!

Not really a problem with friends popping in but one person in particular tends to outstay their welcome! In the past when I had another friend who stayed on the phone to me for ages, I would signal my daughter to press our doorbell.

I don’t mind family or close friends popping in unannounced, it happens all the time, but I am not so keen when acquaintances call round. I don’t know why it makes a difference, but it does.

Also, I like my boss and we have a good working relationship, but they have a tendency to call around unannounced - I hate it. They have been known to call around when I am off sick. I absolutely know that it is well intended and out of concern, but answering the door in my PJs and looking and feeling like death is not my idea of fun. If I am off sick I always feel like I must answer in case they think I am pulling a sickie. Having said that, the last time my boss called around uninvited when I was unwell, my GP called me (whilst the boss was there) and told me to go to hospital immediately and I was admitted for a week. I think the boss may have learned their lesson that day.

My Mother in law was so hospitable that she would leave the back door open in case any of her sons friends were locked out from their own homes.
She would sometimes come downstairs in the morning to one of them sleeping on the sofa.

I wish people would pop in to see me. I am housebound and the only person I ever see is my help. Life gets very tedious.

Over 30 years ago, I found myself a single parent and without any parental support myself, but I was lucky to have several very kind friends and neighbours who helped me through a variety of crises over 5 years. One day, however, I was laid low with a bad case of ‘flu and was trying to look after a 5 year old who didn’t want to go to bed even though I was desperate to be there myself. After the usual battle of wills, I was sitting at the kitchen table, feeling very sorry for myself when the doorbell rang. One of my neighbours stood at the door with a Tupperware container – “It’s home-made lentil soup”, she said, “thought you might like some”. I know, without any doubt, that had she phoned me beforehand, I would have discouraged her from coming in order to try and hide my low mood. But I'm so glad she just appeared and, to this day, I have never forgotten her kind consideration (or the delicious soup!) So I'm always very happy to see anyone who makes the effort to call on me. Friendships are very precious and if you don't look after them, they will fade away.

Bijou

I wish people would pop in to see me. I am housebound and the only person I ever see is my help. Life gets very tedious.

I’m so sorry Bijou. Sending you a big hug and some ?.