Off to sit in on another care assessment today.

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Is that supposed to be insulting BB? If so then I'd have to understand your logic. Are you able to marshall a few facts to back up your odd little post?

How to aleniate the entire membership of Gransnet.....mealy mouthed members? Can you clarify aka? Surely that's not what you intended to say?

"Calm down dear" (quote). Please don't accuse me of "confused personality syndrome" what ever that may be. I wasn't aware that GN was a forum for "duelling opponents" ,but rather, a discussion forum, and I would ask you to explain wht you mean by "sticking my nose in *not for the first time*". If you are having a private spat with a member, the place for that is a pm - not a public forum. I was not aware permission had to be sought to comment on posts.
To object to "sententious twaddle" and counter with the "f" word looks like double standards to me anyway.

Aka - time you backed off yourself. How dare you post to Grace like that? Just because a post is fired directly at one member doesn't stop others from objecting for whatever reason . And yes I am sick of your psychobabble - it can be hurtful and damaging . And your hypocrisy stuns me - what you've said on this thread and then what you say on the thread about J08's email from HQ. what is crystal clear is that you support certain members whatever they say and trash others whatever they say.

Apologies Bluebell it was "sanctimonious" not "sententious".

Confused that someone who posts as 'AKA' is accusing someone else of confused personality disorder .

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But it was sententious too!!

Well Tegan - there's clearly a lot going on with AKA that is beyond our understanding. Given the two positions she adopts on what is acceptable, I'm moving towards some sort of split personality disorder but she'll put us right

Didn't I ask that you not escalate this Grace yet that's exactly what you did in your 11:14:12 post. Why? And why are you answering for BB now?

when do you seriously think that all GNetters are mealy-mouthed? I certainly don't.

Having pondered Grace, I will use both words next time ( and there will be a next time)

Tegan Have you googled the meaning of your online name?

Aka - what on earth are you playing at? It's quite common to support other members in a variety of ways - this is not 'answering for' and who the are you to tell Grace whether or not to escalate matters? You are really showing you true colours this morning - very impressive- a bullying, threatening tone in your posts which is quite unacceptable

Running scared for cover

It was given to me by a very dear friend who wanted to make me feel brave when wading into situations that I found unpleasant but had to face [such as defending someone that someone was being a complete bitch towards]. What the hell is your problem AKA?

Aka please do read my post again. It was your comment that referred to mealy mouthed members that I queried, and rather than assume you meant it, I asked you to clarify.

Tegan I don't have problem with your name. It has a lovely meaning and that was all I was pointing out. So now you're going to jump on the bandwagon with BB, Grace and When I'm off....don't bother adding posts aimed at me I won't be here to read them.

Just this morning someone mentioned that I had not been seen posting recently well if you take a look at the above thread maybe it will explain why,is so easy to insult a person unintentionally when they cannot see the facial expressions conveyed with the comment and any mention of the "f" word in any context is not acceptable imo.

Not getting involved in this spat but would like to make a point of order - doesn't aka apply to pretty much all of us? My name could be John Smith, Jane Jones etc but I am aka Movedalot. Just seems like too much speculation about one member's name, this is not the first time.

Plenty of members have changed their names, some chose to explain why and some didn't - it doesn't matter one jot, their reasons are personal unless they chose to reveal them. This really does seem to be a time to 'get over it'. I was told that we did have a member who posted as 2 different people and I don't like the idea of that, it does sound deceitful to me but I like to think that was a one off.

Not wishing to second guess what a GNetter has posted, but I wonder if Tegan might have been hoping to defuse a situation which had got very heated IMO.

I've only just read through this thread.

Saying f*ck is fairly acceptable these days. On Mumsnet they don't bother with the asterisks.

Anyway, swearing is, to me, preferable to nicely spoken nastiness.

Except that I do object to someone suggesting that another poster has a mental illness.

Do you mean Aka suggesting that about Grace?

Anybody suggesting it about anybody bluebell

I know it's in the heat of the moment but still......

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