As a practising solicitor in this field I would say that you must go to see a solicitor with experience in Wills, and change your Will. Your assets are in joint names with your husband, so will pass to him automatically if you die first. You need to change that by "severing" the joint tenancy so you become "tenants in common". You can then leave your half of the assets to whoever you like. That's a very simple step involving a letter from you to your husband and the solicitor will be able to prepare that, but you do need to notify your husband. Then you make a new Will. Your new Will can leave all your assets outright to your children, who I expect would be devastated if they found that you had almost completely left them out of your Will.
A word or two about the terminology:
"Mirror Wills" has no legal meaning except that they are two Wills in the same form eg "all to my spouse if I die first." "Joint Will" might mean a single Will executed by both of you and is very unusual indeed. "Mutual Wills" are where you have promised each other that you will make Wills in a certain way and not change them without each other's knowledge or (possibly) consent. Again very unusual. Go to see a solicitor. Take copies of your and your husband's existing Wills if you have them. Don't delay.
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