She has turned one neighbour against me (after living next door to him peacefully for nearly 30 years). He now seems to believe I think he may have buried his wife in his back garden and that I have put multiple complaints about him to the Council. Neither is true! His wife, a nice lady, is, as far as I know, in a nursing home (unless she has passed away since I last asked after her).
An elderly friend I have known for 15 years or more, in this road, is not speaking to me after my troublesome neighbour "befriended" her. Neighbour told me today she had told her I said she "never listened to me" (after denying for 2 weeks she had anything to do with it). I have said it is best if she can see you talking because her hearing aids don't always do the job. Not quite the same.
She really went too far the other day. I said hello to her 19 year old Grandson when we passed on the street, me on my mobility scooter. He introduced his younger cousin. We chatted for a minute about his (the cousin's) dog. I mentioned it worried me his Gran shouted so much at her delightful little chihuahua for no apparent reason. It got back to her of course. She has stopped shouting at it all the time, but was very angry and is now telling people I am a paedophile with an "interest in young boys". She has refused to stop and has repeated the accusation. I have told her to call the police and report it if she believes it, but of course she won't.
Her other neighbour ended up in hospital after swallowing all his (prescribed) pain meds after one of her vicious campaigns against him.
The woman is poison. I did my best when she was moved in next door, gave her a carpet, curtains, had her vodka soaked tears on my shoulder at times but I have had enough of her lies and troublemaking. I let it pass as "just M---" but she has gone too far. Is there anything I can do, legally to stop her spreading her lies? I am constantly on edge and feel she is trying to drive me out of my home of 33 years.
I think I meant manic depression now known as Bi-polar?
Dont engage, don't say anything that can be misconstrued as gossip, also don't use any passive aggresive language like what you said about the dog to this ladies Grandson.
I would report all the aggression and stories this neighbour has said but not give her any ammunition.
If you engage you are enabling and that is on you.
Crossstitchfan
Is this real? I’ve never read anything so odd in my life!
I have experience of similar happenings. We moved house when our children were very young and in the first couple of days, chatting to one of the neighbours, She said, 'I must give you warnng about the lady living opposite you. Do not under any circumstances accept any offers of babysitting. If she gets in your house alone she will be looking at all your private papers, inspecting your bedroom, she will also make silent calls. My DH travelled to work with the son of an elderly lady, who was this other woman's neighbour. She had had eggs and other soft messy rubbish thrown against the windows at the back of the house, plus of course the silent calls.
The house was a project, so when the children were having their afternoon nap I would go out the front doing exterior decorating or just general garden maintenance - and the moment I got outside the phone would ring and it would be a silent phone call. In the end I ignored all telephone calls when I was at the front of the house. They soon stopped.
For us the final event was one evening when we were sitting quietly in the living room when we heard the sound of broken glass outside, we rushed out to find the wing mirror on the pavement side of our parked caar had been smashed and as we looked I heard the slight click of her closing front door. We walked up and down the street and there was no one else about or hiding, and we discovered later that she had done this because she considered that when we parked outside our own home her husband had to be slightly more careful when he turned out of his drive. Shortly after that she was sectioned and spent some months in a mental health unit.
My goodness, Monica! You must have been terrified. That’s horrendous. There are some seriously warped people in this world!
Crossstitchfan
My goodness, Monica! You must have been terrified. That’s horrendous. There are some seriously warped people in this world!
This is why Aely has all my sympathy.
I wasn't so much terrified as irritated - and really cross about the wing mirror. Getting a new one fitted was expensive when money was tight.
Someone has already mentioned Age Concern: they can also help with fitting a chain to the door (re post about opening the door to her) and advise on other security measures.
Doing something actively to protect yourself is a great psychological boost.
I keep myself to myself. Sometimes talk to neighbours who talk to me but never engage with anyone. If someone tries to go too deep, I am telling them bye, too busy etc
all this having in mind we have a criminal shady guy who is in police custody and all he does is basically criminally based. He tried to make other neighbours hate each other, but his image was plastered all over town and fb with his previous criminal records. People do not buy his lies. He is known to be the biggest liar of them all.
There's a lot to be said for keeping yourself to yourself and not getting too involved with neighbours. I've always been friendly and pleasant but I've never been the 'pop in for a coffee' sort. They may think I'm stand- offish but that suits me, I've never had any trouble as a consequence
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