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Where is Anya

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Greenfinch Sun 01-Jul-18 15:22:00

I know one or two of you were quite friendly with Anya but I can't seem to send a PM to her. If you could ask her if I could have her email address and then let me have it, I would be most grateful. We both have grandsons of the same age , the same name and with the same problem and I just wanted to hear about how hers was getting on. Thanks if you can help

pollyperkins Fri 06-Jul-18 13:22:17

I've been on GN fot 3 years and right from the start noticed occasional bullying and unpleasantness where people seemed to gang up on someone for no reason. The very first time I posted was when I jumped in with both feet to defend someone who was being 'picked on' and she pm'd me to say thank you.
I can't see that it's changed much. This still happens from time to time and it can get unpleasant especially on political threads. I think as we are all anonymous people have a tendency to criticise and attack others which they wouldn't do in RL (I hope.) But people's feelings can still be hurt.
However most threads are friendly and supportive and I enjoy the chats and humour.

Nonnie Fri 06-Jul-18 13:39:20

Sorry you didn't understand mcem Imo 'a long time' made it quite clear and did not in any way imply I had been a member from the beginning. Had I been here from the beginning it would have been a simple matter to say so. 'Always' was correct in the full context.

mcem Fri 06-Jul-18 14:46:40

Nit-picking aside, I take your point and that of polly but we're coming at this from different angles. Polly quite rightly says that she was aware of the bullying accusations when she joined 3 years ago and I wouldn't contradict that.
However, when I joined G N in its original incarnation that simply wasn't the case.
Ergo we're all justified in saying what we did!!

Nonnie Sat 07-Jul-18 11:02:32

Yes, I would prefer not to have to respond to the nit-picking, rather unhelpful imo.

Shame it is not as it was at the beginning but being on here has taught me that people will say things on a forum they wouldn't say face to face. Maybe those with less than satisfactory lives take it out on others in the virtual world.

I think it is great when people disagree and have reasonable 'conversations' about their differences, I did that with Anya without either of us feeling got at. Unfortunately there are people on gn who can be most unpleasant towards those with a different viewpoint and some who twist what has been said and deliberately misconstrue others' posts. I have been the recipient of such posts and when correcting what I actually said have had no apology. This has led me to decide not to post on some threads where certain people have been 'robust'.

Jalima1108 Sat 07-Jul-18 17:19:54

The very first time I posted was when I jumped in with both feet to defend someone who was being 'picked on' and she pm'd me to say thank you.
Very brave of you pollyperkins, well done.
I have done that a few times and had my knuckles severely rapped as a consequence - but I will carry on!

maddyone Sat 07-Jul-18 22:21:48

It’s funny isn’t it, how you begin to get a feel for some of the other Gransnetters, those you are sure you’d get along with, those who are so empathetic, those who actually you think you’d rather not meet grin.
It does make it difficult to make any kind of relationship, albeit online, if users change their username.