Galaxy
I know lots of transwomen fleur. They would not dream of using single sex spaces. They respect womens boundaries.
To be honest, I am surprised here. Are you saying they use men's toilets, and do not encounter abuse there, or even violence and worse? The fact there are cubicles where they can sit to pee, is NOT the issue here.
In many places, as said, Unis and some work places, gender neutral toilets are available. In the vast majority of places, in rural areas, in pubs and most restaurants, etc, etc. They are NOT available. And even when there are such toilets, just the fact of using them points to those people and open them to abuse and possible violence.
Yes, we need to find solutions. But pretending that we cans just sign a petition, and jump on easy answers, which just put another group at risk, is not the way forwards. OK, some of you will say 'ah but they have chosen to be trans- so tough. Who cares if they are exposed to bullying or worse!'. Is that really the way?
We look at things from different angles. I totally get the other of a disabled woman, or an elderly person with dementia, who is truly concerned she may be subject to male violence or abuse when in care. Totally. And yet, I do believe that transwomen are probably less likely to abuse, or no more likely at least. There are some nasty people in care- some of them are women.
I would have never thought about it unless I had met some amazing transwomen in the recent past. 3 who have gone through full conversion, and totally live as women, 1 of whom you would never ever guess. And another for whom it was too late to do so, in her 60s, and decided not to go through hormonal and physical transformation. I talk to them and their daily encounters with bullying, verbal violence and more- and the fact they would never dare go into a man's toilet, for fear of being attacked, verbally or worse. One of them has been treatened with rape on multiple occasions, with such comments as 'I'll show you what's what and worse.' They opened my eyes, and heart, to their plight.
One of them is a carer and assistant nurse, and no-one knows she was born a male. Her name and papers register her as a woman, she totally looks like a woman, she is married to a man and is called Mrs- why should she have to tell people of her past history? Whom does that help?