I'm afraid that Harry has values that are not shared by the RF or people with his military experience. I am not sure where he got his values, but they are entirely at odds with normality and everything that is kind, right or wise.
I very much doubt that these are the views of someone who has benefitted from engaging with a therapist and "doing the work". It has always been much more convenient to blame everyone except yourself in the "It's everyone elses fault but mine" school of thought and to continue to be a victim in the " I don't want help, I want attention" academy, where the consequences of your own actions are not considered because nothing is "your fault". It's a deluded place that no one who has "done the work" in therapy inhabits.
Anyone can "waa waa" like a baby, we all learned to do that when we were born. It has always been easier to "waa waa" than do the hard work, but you cannot do the hard work and still behave like that. Growth is a choice.
I could name a few other adults who make decisions without considering the consequences, but for H its a disaster.