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hildajenniJ Thu 20-Jul-17 21:54:43

I think the time has come.
My lovely little Parson Russell terrier needs to see the vet. She has been bleeding from the mouth, but I cannot see where. Tonight there are clots on the sofa throws. I know what the vet will say, as she is too old to withstand an anaesthetic or other exploratory treatment. I can't let this go on though, so I'm sitting here writing, with tears in my eyes. I've had this precious little girl for seventeen years, and don't want to say goodbye. She has been such a good dog. Making the decision is so hard, but I must, for her same as I don't want her to suffer.
The thing is, she is still eating and drinking and growling at the postman. I an torn.
Help!

Tessa101 Fri 21-Jul-17 15:45:03

Oh dear I'm dreading the time when I'm in your shoes mines been with me for 12 years and started to show signs of older age. Your little doggy doesn't sound ready to say goodbye yet so I would take it week by week as she sounds as she's still up to most things. Please keep us posted. flowers

hildajenniJ Fri 21-Jul-17 16:06:24

She is having a good day today. She has been quite active and eaten well. I think the blood came from the loss of a tooth. I'm holding off the vet visit, as there is nothing she can do.

Marieeliz Fri 21-Jul-17 16:44:15

My feelings go out to you. I have my third dog who is eight love him so much. My first dog lived only until 10 my last one 14. I hope Leo has a few years to go. A 78 feel I would be unable to replace him but he is wonderful company as I am sure yours is HildaJenniJ. He is really lovely.

Rosina Fri 21-Jul-17 17:04:09

My dear mongrel companion of twelve years (rescue dog who was then nineteen) started to fail. I didn't want to make the decision, and anyone who has had a pet can understand that, but my SIL said gently 'You know things aren't right, and you must help her'. It was so hard, but if you don't act, as the days go on it will become worse in that your lovely little dog will fail more and more and then you will have those bad days to think about and remember. While she is still a little bit like herself perhaps it is time to consult the vet; my dog had such a peaceful end, here at home, and we felt such relief along with the heartache that we had saved her from pain. We felt that she deserved that dignity for all her loyalty, love and selflessness. They all deserve that. My thoughts are with you hildajenniJ

Foxyferret Fri 21-Jul-17 17:07:14

I feel so sad for you. We have had Labradors over many years and have said goodbye to five so far and one we have at the moment is in trouble, his back legs have gone but seems cheerful and still eating. He is nearly 13. I hope the vet is sympathetic and the bleeding is not serious but she has had a good long life so be thankful for that. It never gets any easier with these lovely dogs, we have 5 labs at the moment and each one has his own personality. Your dog has a lovely face and I hope you can be brave if that sad day comes, I really feel for you.?

jimmyRFU Fri 21-Jul-17 17:55:20

I had to make this decision with my little Cassie cat (my baby) during the Queens Jubilee celebrations. She was very ill for a few days and I took her up alone. The vet had been forewarned. A young man helped her slip away whilst she was in my arms in her blanket. I couldn't bring home, couldnt fact it. She slipped away just like I wanted. He was so caring. I left the clinic in tears and a hug from the nurses. A week later I received a condolence card from the vet and staff. It was the hardest thing I had ever done but was the best thing for her.

newnanny Fri 21-Jul-17 17:58:57

hilda is there somewhere your dog loves to go, the seaside or park or somewhere? I would take her for a really nice treat day doing all her favourite thing and then the next day take a deep breath and take her to vets. It may be something easy to fix. If she is still eating she is probably not in pain. You won't feel comfortable until you know. You may still have time left with her and if so you want it to be good quality time you can both enjoy together. You know your dog best go with your gut feeling.

HootyMcOwlface Fri 21-Jul-17 17:59:48

Crying here Hilda thinking of you and your little dog. Sending lots of love xx

Bluecat Fri 21-Jul-17 18:51:20

I can sympathise with your situation. We have had cats who have just "slipped away" in their sleep but a couple who had to go to the vet because we knew they were very sick and would not get better. It's an awful decision to make but a compassionate one. Frankly, I wish that people, including myself, could go so quickly and gently when it is time.

I hope your old friend gets over this, but love will help you to make the right decision if and when it is needed.

harrysgran Fri 21-Jul-17 19:36:43

I really feel for you its the hardest decision but the kindest for your lovely little dog it's the price we pay for their loyalty and companionship I read a lovely quote heaven is a place where all the dogs you have ever loved come to greet you hope it's truesmile

Caro1954 Fri 21-Jul-17 20:31:45

I'm so sorry you're in this situation, as I have been several times. Please don't put off going to the vet, there may be something she can do. I just don't want you to have any regrets and only the happiest memories.

grannyqueenie Fri 21-Jul-17 20:35:22

What a beautiful little dog, no wonder you feel so sad about it all, Hilda. Hugs to all who are facing the loss of a much loved companion,

Lillie Fri 21-Jul-17 20:57:49

She's a sweet dog Hilda and has no doubt been a great pet. Sending special hugs all round.