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Tedber Thu 02-May-19 21:46:24

In January, I lost my lovely amazing mum...she was 89 and I was at her bedside when she was dying, holding her hand. In March, I lost my lifelong friend of 52 years and again I was with her when she died, holding her hand.

Three weeks ago...my gorgeous 10 year old ginger cat, Duke collapsed on the floor without warning. Had been really healthy. Rushed him to vets, they kept him in for 3 days and phoned to say....he wouldn't make it and they were going to humanely put him to sleep. I had to send my husband because I just couldn't cope seeing my little boy go...... So weird I know but the pain I felt when he went was every bit as bad as my mum and my best friend. I couldn't even begin to explain how bad I felt..... Does anyone else understand???

Tedber Sat 04-May-19 17:56:20

Thank you soooo much everyone for your comments and words of comfort. All heartbreaking but am glad I am not just 'strange' Take care everyone x

Yogagirl Mon 06-May-19 08:34:31

Sorry for your losses Tedber I'm glad you posted though, haven't read the reply posts yet, but def. will, I think they will help me.

I lost my furbaby Lilly [Westie] on the 20th April just gone, the pain of losing her floored me. When my M&D passed away she was there for me, when I lost my beloved D&GC & then S [through estrangement], she kept me from ending my life, she really did. So sweet & loving, I had her for 15.5yrs and now she's gone. It's horrible coming home to an empty house, it's horrible not to have her curled up next to me on the bed and to hear her comforting breathing. No little tail wagging, seen through the glass front door, as I come home. No one to say good morning or goodnight to, I'm truly lost without her sad

The moment she passed, Sat 4.33pm 16 days ago, I made that involuntary cry one makes only when you lose a loved one, it sort of comes up from your gut. sad sad

Yogagirl Mon 06-May-19 09:03:16

My little GD that loved Lilly was over for an Easter egg hunt on Easter Friday, whilst my little Lilly was in hospital. We had a lovely lunch in the garden, an Easter egg & spoon race. They then left to see the film Mary Poppins.

My vet than phoned to say nothing more they could do for my Lilly, so I collected her and bought her home for cuddles. My D&GC came back, but of course I couldn't let them in as it was Lilly's last moments. My little GD face when I said she couldn't come in, I'll never forget sad

But now, every time she comes round she says is Lilly in heaven,..what up there in the skies... can she not come down again even when she speaks to me on the phone she says the same. They phoned me yesterday on their way back from holiday and the first thing my little GD said was..[the above] she's 3.5yrs

Yogagirl Mon 06-May-19 09:13:29

notentirelyallhere I must do the same. Lilly is in the crem. box, which is very pretty, sitting on my bedside bookcase with all my family pics. But I want to put her in a lovely Westie ceramic pot I wasn't given a few Xmas ago [it had biscuits in it. I'm afraid to do it though! But the pot looks just like Lilly, so every time I look at it, sitting on my harth, I think of Lilly, so think that's where she should be.

Yogagirl Mon 06-May-19 09:17:21

Same with me SalsaQueen but not a stroke, sorry for your loss x

Yogagirl Mon 06-May-19 09:20:41

Ironmaiden my little Lilly had kidney probs & on a special diet, she got very thin too sad

Yogagirl Mon 06-May-19 09:42:38

Yes I felt my Lilly was my soul mate too, first time I've admitted that.

My friends were so kind & thoughtful, none had pets, but they sent me bougets of flowers & bereavement cards.

flowers for all on here who have loved & lost xxx

Helga5555 Wed 03-Jul-19 11:28:23

i am so sorry(

knickas63 Wed 03-Jul-19 11:46:17

Completely! A loved pet is part of your family! Anyone with any love or empathy would feel the same. I am so sorry for your losses! flowers