When one of you not interested in sex

Absent re your late Sunday post. I recognise a lot of what you are saying there.

So much sadness here. I have tried every cream/ gel on the planet: nothing works. My kind Doctor even sent me to the Hospital fof help. No joy there, either. I have mentioned before that many years ago I used to have a Tetosterone implant, that realy worked but they stopped doing it.
I have to say, though, we do laugh about it.
Please dont think I'm being flippant about this. My OH had a 3 year affair because of this problem.

He's been deleted, thank goodness!

Reported him/her too. First time I have reported anyone - what a twit.

Lona I am so glad that you find my unhappiness a source of humour. Shall I tell you about some other things that cause me to cry in private so you can have a really good laugh?

I apologise absent, it was a thoughtless moment.

Accepted and thank you Lona

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You must tell the doctors that, shiny. If just thinking can cure a dry sore c**t where creams, hormones and medicines fail, you are on to a winner.

That wasn't for you Elegran, that was for shiny's comment.

Elegran grin] Good for you!

That was for you Elegran

Who is this Shiny?
Strange post.
Are you new?

Elegran - wonderful suggestion, if only some one would find such a treatment

Goodness me! and Elegran well said and bravely too

absent the laws in Australia appear to be different to those in the UK regarding division of property if a couple separate. In Australia de facto and married couples are treated the same. If you have been together for at least three years your partner/spouse are entitled to a share of your property. Have you checked to see where you stand in regard to NZ laws. Your partner could leave you and be entitled to a large portion of your property.

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Welcome Shiny .Thank you for responding.

It doesn't work for me shiny.

shiny If you read all the posts on here, many have found that they can make the dudes sweat until the cows come home, but the men can't make them sweat, and the lightest touch is agony because of vaginal atrophy.
There are many creams, lubricants, medications and so on which try to ease the situation, but for some nothing works.

Then there are those whose partner, to whom they feel loyalty, has no interest in sex, however they are approached. You say "men" in the plural, but how about those who have committed themselves to only one man, and do not want to look for gratification elsewhere? Or those who would be homeless and unsupported if they are seen to be unfaithful, whatever their need for love?

You are 55, some GNers are a generation older than that, and are financially and emotionally dependent, and brought up to sexual reticence. Not easy to cast that all off.

Well said Elegran!

Big hands clap to you Elegran and a big bunch of

My DH and I had a good sex life but since his death I find I have lost all interest. Despite receiving offers (one within 3 months of his death!), I am simply not interested.

I thought lack of sex might be a problem because our sex life was so satisfactory, but 2 years on this has not proved to be the case. I am perfectly happy with the thought of being celibate for the rest of my life.

I do sympathise with those of you with partners who are not interested as I know how wonderful a loving and satisfying sex life can be.