Support for family members cut out of loved ones lives 5

Hi ladies my flowers arrived at last, poor Steve interflora ran out of the gift be ordered a breakfast tray thingy with Buck's Fizz s liked salmon croissants etc. So nothing yesterday think he got bit angry and flowers came today,

We had another difficult day yesterday have cancelled lunch with friends tomorrow as we are going throng through difficult patch and feel overdoing it bit,

Got knee injection hopefully Monday.

London was amazing but knees painful !

Sorry foot still bothering you rhinestone mine took long while I have lypotryosy treatment In end worked miracle, I had plantar fasiliotis. And tendonitis in ligament,

Fantastic Smilelss fresh start.

Keep yoga teaching ?Yogagirl and here ??for us all.

My dear little GD is now 13 had cake and candles. yesterday

Great hear from you wendysue didn't realise you were from across the
Pond.

Yeah, celeb, I'm from across the pond, LOL! Sorry you're having such a hard time with knees and eye, etc. Hope things get better soon!

Thanks wendysue got injection on monday afternoon hopefully.

M asked us to mind D while she at dentist and we happy to if we me in time.

She also coming to see us next Friday our only free day.??so pleased.

Saw my brother her f I law Friday and he not seen them since we did last so dont feel so bad I am way too sensitive, you correct rhinestone this estrangement t does make us vulnerable.

Like you Yogagirl have fudged a funeral that day (Friday )as I feel so damn emotional at minute I wrote. NIce card to family. Feel bit guilty but not see. M and D for about a month.

Happy weekend all x

Thanks celeb! Had a lovely weekend and hope you did, too!

We did thank goodness, sat Gra worked and is good get break from each other meant in nice way did some chores, and yesterday we cancelled lunch out as had take curtains back and we really needed unwind.

Was good day. Nervous today seeing specialist this afternoon then hope be back to care for D first time we been asked?Looking forward to that as they been poorly so not seen them for ages.

Hope all goes well, celeb! Enjoy taking care of D!

An article in Times 2 today by Tanya Byron about advice for estranged grandparents. Just posted on here in case it might be helpful to anyone in this situation. Sorry can't do a link for it.

Couldn't See anything just looked at times online

Yogagirl never did print our article did they.????

www.thetimes.co.uk/tto/public/share/uuid/f7813370-e6dd-11e5-8a26-39042c5d2ae8

I've looked and it's on line in the Times 2 section.ive copied the link . Hope it works. If not I've saved it in My Articles and probably could forward it if you so wished. Pm me please as I don't usually come onto this thread.

Hope your appointment went well Celeb and that as I type, you're looking after little D and having a wonderful time.

Thanks for the link Stansgran it worked but you have to subscribe in order to read the article, well at least that what it looks like to me but as everyone knows I'm a technophobeso I could be wrong.

Well ladies' the 'For Sale' sign is up and I've just had an email from the estate agent who tells me there's already been a lot of interest and I have to say I'm not sure how to feel about it now the wheels have been set in motion. The first house we viewed could be 'the one' and we've 3 to view on Wednesday so it could be one of those. As you can probably tell, it's all very strange and ratherbut we're enjoying looking around and making plans.

Hadn't realised either that you are 'across the pond' Wendysue, just like Rhinestone which reminds me, are you still wearing that sexy boot Rhinestone or have you been able to part with it?

Hope you all had a good weekend, looks like we're in for some spring like weather this week which should lift all of our spirits.

Thanks Smilelss did pm you a. Reeling as he drained 45ml fluid from left knee and the did cortisone jab he scanned both knees first was able scan them at Colchester so bit luck I could t make Clacton appt such a lottery the. Nhs.

Yes was wonderful to have D time went too quickly bless her,

It must be bit scarey Smilelss has board gone up? If so wonder if you will near from Es. Do hope so.

Oh well rest for. Me fingers crossed it will help pain and other one in 6 weeks

Feel better, celeb! Glad you enjoyed your time with D!

Best of luck, Smileless! You're bound to have some mixed feelings, but in the end, I'm certain, you'll be glad you made this move!

Thank you Stangran I will take a look at the article, but too late for us all now :'-(

Yes Celebgran all that messing about, make-up, hair, clothes and about 200 photos, yet they never bothered to print the article, if they went ahead with it now, it would be out of date.
We have 'spoken' on pm so wont repeat, also with Smileless same thing.

Your right Smileless you have to subscribe to see the full article.

Hi Smileless I'm so thrilled for you. A new home is a new start. Has a sign been posted at your home yet? What does your son down under think about your moving?
Went to the doctor yesterday and the break is still there but he took more X rays and said it should be better in two to three more weeks. I put a shoe on yesterday but he told me to only wear that if I'm going out where I won't be walking. Otherwise I have to use my sexy boot. I now have an ankle wrap rouse also. If I don't mind him it will take me another month and I don't want that. So I will be a good girl and do what he says.

Oooh you poor thing Celeb, how are you feeling now? Have a niceto help you relax and someto cheer you up.

Thanks Wendysue and Rhinestone for your words of encouragement and support and to you Celeb and Yogagirl for your thoughtful pm's. It's a bit scary I must admit and all feels a bit strange. Goodness knows how we'll feel if some one puts an offer in for ours. The estate agent is positive about not having any problem finding a buyer so we'll have to wait and see.

DS in Oz is being supportive bless him and it must be sad for him knowing that when he comes back again for a visit he may not be staying in the home he grew up in. He said it's been a very difficult time for us and it's not going to get any easier. I saw a boy of about 7 out on his bike this afternoon when I was walking the dogs and thought that could be our eldest GS in 3 years time and I just don't want to see him, ride past not knowing I'm his grandma.

We're looking at 3 properties tomorrow. Without physically seeing any of them I'm really keen on a 1930's 4 bed which has been totally refurbished for sale. Mr. S. isn't sure about its location though and we're both looking forward to seeing a 4 bed traditional cottage which will need bit of work but nothing excessive, unless I get carried away of course.

I can't believe this all started 3 weeks ago when all we were doing was going out for lunch.

Smileless I wonder if your ES will panic not knowing where you have moved to? It's interesting because he may be estranged from you but there's a security in knowing where you are even if there is no communication. You are doing what you need to do for you and Mr. S and bringing happiness into your life instead of staying put and having the happiness sucked out of you. Anyways that's how this Yankee sees things. Good luck!

Thanks Rhinestone I think luck is what we need right now. Viewed 3 properties today and the first was awfulI mean how do some people expect to sell their house when it closely resembles a .... hole.

The second was rather nice and the third could be but would be a bigger project then we'd thought about. No viewings for ours yet; we could end uo staying and that would wipe the smile off her face but I hope it doesn't come to that. ES would know where we've gone if he wanted too because DS would tell him.

Just going to have to play the waiting game I guess. Oh dear, I'm not a very patient person I'm afraid.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Well Celebgran I would say that photo was done for you, it's positioned just right for you to see the pics of your GD's with other nannie! Why would she do that, with a big smile, it's too obvious!

Celebgran looked for the blog, but it says;
This blog is open to invited readers only
Just wondered if you knew this

Hi Yogagirl I did mess about with privacy settings sorry if you tap in her name M it should come up. [Name removed]

Yes it does look like T deliberately nasty,
However I don't think she wants us to see anything or any photos.

Well did go to J funeral the cremation service and glad we did and M came round afterwards.

Poor J was only 56 makes you realise life really is too short for the heartache we have gone Through we need enjoy each day,?

Celeb I do realise it's none of my business, but do you really think it's wise to post a picture of your daughter, and the comments that go with it, and your DGD's full name, on an open forum like Gransnet? Are you deliberately trying to upset your D?
If I were you I'd ask GNHQ to delete them ASAP.

Celebregran, hope you feeling lots better and that you enjoy your holiday. Your daughter looks lovely, but that is a very forced smile. You know her of course, but do you really think she is being nasty? She probably doesn't even know you can look at the photo. I am not on Facebook so I don't know how the privacy settings work, but surely if you want to block someone you can. In a way, I envy those of you with other family. At the moment I cannot stop crying because I miss what I used to have. My daughter will never want proper contact with me, no big falling out, she just genuinely prefers her friends to any family. I have found the effort to go out and mix has just gone, it is so hard that everyone I saw had some family and I had to have this forced smile on my face, when inside I was crying. Feel helpless about the future, have booked a holiday but it doesn't take away the lonliness. Sorry to go on, if I could wave a want I would wish that all those lost children get in touch with their moms and dads and realise we all love them and do the best we can, sometimes getting things wrong, but who doesn't. No one cares like you'd mom, why don't they know that. Sorry to sound do down.

So sorry luckylegs no I do t think t is Boeing deliberately not ashy as I found the photo totally by accident. Yes I agree it is a forced smile and of course I know her well enough.

It is so distressing that she has photo of the other grandparents on wall
With little girls we never met who are our dear Grandaughters.

You are right Jain it is not your business I guess it was you who reported it to admin? Appreciate your concern but it is misplaced.

I have absolutely nothing to hide and this photo is on Twitter far more public than this thread.

The photo made me feel quite ill how would anyone feel to see photo of little grandchild on Twitter when prevented from seeing them?

We share stuff and support each other on this thread and despite my daughter appalling behaviour I don't choose to upset her.