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Estrangement / Cut off Mum

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b0dhiTree Thu 26-Jan-17 11:09:26

My daughter and I had a good relationship confirmed by lovely Mother's Day cards but after the man who was to become her second husband moved in I got only one more Mother's Day card. The manipulation of my daughter continued and we are now not in contact at all. I am finding it extremely difficult to cope with. I cry a lot and I feel very lonely and isolated. I now have a grandson that I am not able to see as this man has told me I am not a good enough person to be a grandmother. Does anyone have any ideas about how to cope or even, please God, recover?

Yogagirl Sat 15-Apr-17 13:04:06

Hi Celebgran nice to hear you are feeling better. I'm feeling sad & sort of angry, it's been sooo long now since I saw them, to be cut off, no phone calls, emails, nothing sad Not allowed to know how they all are, it's just tragic & cruel. When I'm with my ND & GD I think to myself, I can cope, I'm ok but after just an hour of leaving, it disappears and I'm back to grieving again sad When will it end [?]

"Happy Easter All" flowers I would go to church, but my classes don't allow, I've vowed that next year I will book Easter off and go to church, I'm missing not going.

Starlady Sun 16-Apr-17 04:56:19

Oh, I see, Yoga. Thanks for taking time to explain.

Happy Easter to you, too. I imagine the holiday is making you feel "sad & sort of angry." I know it must be harder around holiday time.

Happy Easter to everybody!

Luckylegs9 Sun 16-Apr-17 16:02:35

Is there anything worse than a bank holiday, everything closed, when everyone seems to be with someone? I never get used to it. ? To all those missing someone.

celebgran Sun 16-Apr-17 19:48:53

Aagh luckylegs ??so sorry you feeling lonely!

I am Lucky we met friends for lunchtime drink and just Skyped our son not feeling great but nownfinally got antibiotics for tum so improving,

Hope tomorrow will be brighter for you x

Luckylegs9 Mon 17-Apr-17 06:33:07

Thank you Celebregran for your kind words and thoughts. I went out yesterday for a two hour walk with friends, we had a drink afterwards and laughed, came back home and it just hits me, She's gone. I feel the sadness through me, like lettering in a stick of rock, but covered by this veneer of normality for the world to see. I read the comments from all those on this forum and identify and feel for their predicament and wish not for the first time their was a solution.
Hope you all enjoy the rest of Easter. I will be going for a bit of retail therapy.x?

Luckylegs9 Tue 18-Apr-17 07:50:18

Well next Easter is sorted. I have booked a holiday, far more than I usually pay, but just decided not doing what I have done this Easter whilst I am still able to get away. I will be with lots of others and there is entertainment, so I can get dressed up.

celebgran Tue 18-Apr-17 08:07:48

Excellent idea lucklylegs??

We were very stressed knock dh had in car last Monday didn't help sorted insurance now hopefully and I get so down being in pain all time especially now had stop naproxen,

At least tummy settled dh suggested cooling huge joint beef yesterday I really wasn't well enough and we had promised visit our elderly neibor who Rosie sits well it was. Massively overdone worst Yorkshire ever made mynback was so bad I was in tears as tried clean bedrooms dh hoovers i dust and clean. Bathrooms
It was an awful easter Monday!

He at works today hopemgo acquacsie at least can move in water but hope don't feel as ill as last week, tum settled bit with antibiotics,

How are rest of us on here?
Smilelss did pm youu hope things aren't too stressful,??
Yogagirl i too wish had gone to service,