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I am petrified

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Rolande Thu 22-Feb-18 12:10:34

My husband passed away over a year ago. I had been caring for him for seven years. He had a rare form of cancer.
Few weeks ago, on Gransnet I saw a post about online dating. After talking with DD and DIL, I thought, OK, lets try.
To cut a long story short, I have been chatting with some one that seems really nice and we are meeting this week end.
I am simply petrified! Not of being murdered grin, but DATING... What have I let myself in to!!
So Gransnet friends, advice.
We're meeting in a pub for lunch. What do I wear? Do we shake hands when we meet? What if I don't like him? What if his table manners are awful? Is that important or not? I'm like a cat on a hot tin roof! Help!!

Rolande Sat 24-Feb-18 19:13:50

It’s happening tomorrow! ?
I will let you know on Monday if I haven’t died of a stroke before hand ?

Grannyknot Sat 24-Feb-18 19:25:12

Good luck smile

crazyH Sat 24-Feb-18 20:23:45

Hope he's nice and the date goes well !!

Luckygirl Sat 24-Feb-18 22:47:37

Here's to a lovely lunch out tomorrow. Hope he turns out to be a nice man and you have a good lunch together.

Notagranyet12 Sun 25-Feb-18 13:37:23

Illicit Encounters??? I'm with Miss Adventure there, doesn't sound like one I'd like to try? Maybe I'm wrong.
Also Rolande, if this date doesn't work out and I hope it does, be careful if you start to receive messages from men who live too far away, or who say they are working in another country and will be coming home soon. They are scams. Best to only correspond with men you can actually meet in person, without having to jump on a plane. Good luck for tomorrow. Have fun.

Nonnie Sun 25-Feb-18 14:09:38

Grannyknot I also met DH on a blind date, 52 years ago and he proposed after 12 days. That mus be some kind of record!

I think blind dates may have been better because at least we had a friend in common who had decided we would suit each other - possibly. She had arranged other blind date/s for him which didn't work, don't want to know how many grin

kittylester Sun 25-Feb-18 16:30:02

I hope you've had a lovely time Rolande.

Blind dates weren't foolproof back in the day!! One of my friends sent me on a blind date with a chap 4" shorter than me even before I put on my cuban heels. confused

I met DH at a Christmas party and he proposed 12 days later, too. He's taller than me!

Grannyknot Mon 26-Feb-18 08:15:26

kitty don't be "shortist" ? - you know size doesn't matter! ?

holdingontometeeth Mon 26-Feb-18 11:24:50

Mawbroom, have we met?
Come on Rolande, I've read four pages, how did it go?
I hope you have lived to tell the tale!

Nonnie Mon 26-Feb-18 11:27:01

kitty you should choose friends with better eyesight! grin Wouldn't be hard to find someone taller than me though. Perhaps we share the GN record for the earliest proposal?

Rolande Mon 26-Feb-18 12:30:21

Hello all! Yes, we met and he just left!!!! He's fun, good looking, tall kittylester, good mannered (well enough any way) good company, a solidly built man and very cuddly!! We had such a good laugh, I'm still giggling! Few things to iron out but yes we'll meet again. I really want to thank you all Gransnetters for your support and advice, I appreciated it. wink

JackyB Mon 26-Feb-18 12:35:11

That is such good news! It's nice to know there are still decent chaps about.

Nevertheless, remain on your guard.

Vange Mon 26-Feb-18 12:59:53

Great news Rolande! At the very least - you have a new friend!

OurKid1 Mon 26-Feb-18 14:17:09

Excellent to hear that Rolande! Good luck - whatever happens in the future.

crazyH Mon 26-Feb-18 14:34:34

Hang on a minute....."he just left"....it's Monday, you were supposed to meet yesterday.... so it wasn't just lunch eh??

Anyway, glad he was nice ...keep us posted Rolande !

Rolande Mon 26-Feb-18 14:39:58

Caught me out there crazyH!! blush LOL

cornergran Mon 26-Feb-18 14:40:10

I'm pleased all went well rolande but if crazy's interpretation is right please do have a care for yourself.

Nonnie Mon 26-Feb-18 15:06:23

Glad he made you happy. Still keep cautious though, conmen are very believable and many older women have been caught out,

kittylester Mon 26-Feb-18 15:14:52

I'm glad you had a good time and I'm glad he's tall!

I am only 5'5" - so he was shooooort!

Notagranyet12 Mon 26-Feb-18 15:35:26

You naughty girl Rolande! I wouldn't have guts to do that! Bet you've got a smile on your face now?

DanniRae Mon 26-Feb-18 16:25:43

[Shock]

yggdrasil Mon 26-Feb-18 16:37:26

smile

hope he used protection

glammanana Mon 26-Feb-18 16:45:49

I'm shocked at what I have just read (if I have read it right) OPs couldn't have been that nervous if he had only just left ?

luluaugust Mon 26-Feb-18 16:46:03

Gord luv us! when we all said go for it.........

MissAdventure Mon 26-Feb-18 16:55:11

grin she took us at our word, and had the decency to come back and let us know!