I am petrified

I'm amazed ?

Hope we won't be hearing the sound of tiny feet in nine months ?

Glad you hit it off,
Is there anyway you could check out his credentials, not very romantic, but you have to take care of your yourself
Head first then Heart.

Fun times ahead?

Good on you Rolande.
Just be careful that you don't get emotionally hurt, as you are in a position now that I assume you haven't been in for some time.

excuse the pun!

I had a bad experience last year - a chap I see often at our coffee morning (50+ group) , gave me his telephone number and asked me to call him. For months I didn't call him, because I didn't want to start a relationship especially after such a bad marriage. Anyway, I liked his personality etc and because he kept on asking me to call him, I eventually did. I started explaining to him why I didn't call him etc because I was wary of entering into another relationship etc and guess what he unashamedly said to me. "I'm not looking for a relationship, I only want sex " ....I ended the conversation politely, but what I should have said was "you know where you can go if you want just sex".
I still see him at our club.....shamelessly, he says "hello"...I don't even like to look at his face now.
Rolande, I hope it all works out well for you and you end up having a meaningful relationship with this guy. But like the other ladies have said, make sure it's not just sex that he's after ...all the best !

This made me very ?

In the words of Cilla ............ Do I need to buy a hat ?

So pleased it went well, however I would be cautious that every date isn't met with the expectation that he spends the night at your house. Good luck.

Gosh! This post might need to be censured soon! . My son just asked me if he was coming for Xmas, good grief!! Too early for a hat!
I am 73 and he is 78, so I am probably after sex more than him really.
As for money, neither one of us have any, so no problem there.
My emotions, now that I will have to watch. Harder to control. One day at the time I think.
Hope I am not shocking to many on here talking openly. If I do, I apologise.

Well, that was a bit of a leap

Blimey! - don't hold back will you?!!

And someone advised you not to even let him kiss you on the cheek??? I thought that was being a little too cautious but don't think you really needed any advice to start with, you seem to know exactly what you want and why not?

Can’t have been all that petrified then.
Good luck to you, but honestly it could have turned out very differently and I am (slightly) surprised that you seem to have ignored every single safety precaution or rule of internet/blind dating.
Even at 23 I would not have jumped into bed with someone I had met for lunch for the first time but if what you are looking for is sex then I suppose that is up to you.
But I would be very wary of any man of whatever age who met me for the first time for lunch and the stayed through to midday the following day.
He may make a habit of this sort of thing for all you know .
Sorry to sound such a killjoy

Not a killjoy - just sensible.

You are not at risk of pregnancy (!) but STDs are not put off by older genitalia. Seriously, this guy might make a habit of these sort of meetings and every person he has had sex with then you too have, from an infection point of view.

Maybe you should visit the clinic for safety's sake.

I think most of us GNs are pretty unshockable so no worries there. If you are happy with the relationship Rolande just go with the flow and enjoy it.

Just be mindful of your own wellbeing. Emotionally, physically, and in every way.
Apart from that, well, have fun!

Yes, what missadventure said, we want to you be both safe and happy.

Well, that escalated quickly didn’t it?
Please be careful, letting a total stranger into your home is such a bad idea. Having said that I hope it all goes well.

Well - I don't think it was just into her home!

Sounds like you had a barrel of fun! Good on you! You only live once, after all. I am not going to add any advice regarding precautions, etc. Plenty of others have done that already.

Luckygirl, too much information!

Far too much information sadly as it is now on facebook.

Oh the joys of facebook.
Please be careful with regard to your health as the biggest rise in STDs is in over 55s.

What's on Facebook ?

It is of no matter really