Hey Monica, I don't recall I express a wish of you saying particular things (apart from the questions you avoid but it's ok)? Don't we all agree on being civil and polite? I am feeling that you are implying I come here with a bad intention, please tell me that I misunderstood?
I'm trying the best to be organised here. Quite often in law problems become a debate of 'who's fault'. But my experience and the stories I read and heard make me see things quite differently. Some gran mentioned 'being old' and 'lonely', Some gran mentioned 'not the end of the world'. Most grans didn't like to think that it wasn't pleasant to be around them therefore the loneliness. For some grans, having a strained relationship with in laws = not able to see GC as much as they want = end of the world.
I have been thinking, reading, discussing a lot on this. And I have realised some in law problems are not exactly in law problems, they are problems of feeling fading from AC's lives (they don't come to see me because they are afraid of their evil spouses) , emotion management (ie I feel excluded and I feel angry so let me blame my DIL/SIL), problems of being a middle age woman (ie I spent most of my life on my DC, they flew the nest, I then expected I would have a lot involvement in my GC's lives but it didn't happen, and now I have nothing to do....)
Isn't there a saying 'your greatest enemy is yourself'? We have all been on earth for a few years (maybe more than that ), don't we find that whenever we deal with hardships, tricky situations, or difficult people, we are actually deal with our weaknesses and fears?
What do people think?