Moving away from grown up children with new partner

You can't make decisions based on grandchildren who might never even exist.
You won't be all that far away and can always move closer again if you want to be an involved granny to your grandchildren who are only hypothetical at the moment.

So many of us in the same position. I also have a new person in my life.
I had not noticed how things were for quite a while. I was expected to babysit with little notice or at strange hours. I was not visited. I did not ever have any general conversation
I was trying to juggle babysitting 4 days a week, trying to go to house viewings and fitting everything around DP shift patterns. It was a bit much.
I had a fall and still I went to babysit. When the parent got finished at work, I was asked to babysit some more while DD went to dash around with non parent to find certain Beers. I said I have to get to the hospital and that provoked anger at me and the child. Similar happened a few weeks later. The non parent was to be appeased while I was to cope with another difficult situation on my own. Since I mentioned that I was unhappy with this I have been ignored.
I am now actively looking for a property away from the home town. This will be my property and DP will also have his property which is near the home town.
I know my DCs would not give me 5 minutes of their time so why should I give up any chance of happiness and someone who seems to care a whole lot more about me.
Go for it and enjoy.

Thank you,

Algria even if you stayed where you are, whats to say your children would not move away anyway.
Go for it...

Only an hour and a half from possible grandchildren? Are you the lucky one! We live 4 hours from ours, our children's grandparents lived all of one and a half hours away and I often lived halfway across the world from my grandparents.

Since you say your children rarely visit where you are now, I cannot see what difference it will make even if you move even further away. Are you assuming this will change when they have children? I shouldn't bet on it, unless they want you to do lots of (unpaid) childcare for them.

Guilt doesn't come into it.

I'm three train rides away from both sons' families and when my DSs were small, we lived a similar distance from both sets of in-laws.There's nothing new in this kind of family mobility. If you don't make the move, there's no guarantee that your sons won't. I still have a good relationship with both of mine and, even if I don't see the GC as often as I'd like, we have, nevertheless, a real relationship.
Go ahead, enjoy your new relationship - it's your life.

Laptop playing tricks! 'There's nothing new...'

If you are absolutely certain that you want this partner and a life together then don't hesitate. Your family will sort itself out and all will be well. Be happy

Go for it 1 1/2 hours is nothing.

I did it more than 30 years ago when my kids were 18 and 22. They were very supportive of me as they had their own lives, university and partners. It was hard as I moved 4 hours away and it was not easy at first for anyone. After 10 years we moved back to near my kids and I thought my life was complete with husband, kids and grandchildren. 6 years later my daughter announced that they were moving with their 2 children to Australia. So don't stay where you are for their sake - any time they could up sticks and move away themselves without the heart searching you are going through! Good relationships survive no matter the distance, you just have to work a bit harder at them x

The question I would ask is if adult children were moving for job or better housing would they not go because of where the parents live? We have to live to the full.
OP I would say go and be happy.