How can I comfort her?

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I was sure you would have been locked up by now for slapping the grandmother thegrangbang (or whoever the hell you are) . Weirdo.

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Agree with the others re not slagging him off incase they get back together.

I have had friendships suffer because friends who cried on my shoulder then felt awkward around me when they got back together.

Try to listen without responding with justified anger and hurt on her behalf: offload that on here or to a trusted friend or partner, at least until you're sure that the split is permanent!

You've been given some really good advice here, and I can't add anything to it.

I know how hurt and bitter you feel right now. It's the worst thing in the world to see your child hurting, and there's nothing you can do to help her heartbreak. (But there is nothing you can do, except listen to her, cuddle her, dry her eyes, and help with the practicalities.)

I've been through this situation with both of my daughters, and know what a tough time this is for you.

But it won't last! Your daughter will get over this in time. (Everything passes.) And you'll look back one day and realise that it was for the best.

I now have two new sons-in-law, and both of my daughters are the happiest they have ever been.

No matter how dark and dismal it may seem to you now, there's always light at the end of tunnel!

Hang on in there, and do what you do best - being a loving mum and nanna.

And I guarantee, that in five years' time, life will have moved on, and all of this present emotional chaos won't matter a jot.

Keep your chin up - and Good Luck!

thegrangbang - So pleased to hear that your Cyril stuck with you, because you 'looked after him and his needs'. Well done you!

Where are you? 1930?

Lyndiloo good posts
The second one made me

I wonder why Cyril didn't go round and slap the neighbour.
Not much of a man is He?

Just coming at this from another perspective.....I was once the DD in this position, and my mother made her views known in no uncertain terms, directly to my H at one stage!
We "tried again" and made it work(ish) for another 28 years before I finally threw in the towel, but they were three decades of family strife. He never forgave my mother, and I never confided in her again.

Having your say just isnt worth the fallout, OP. As so many others have said: vent here!